his dad moved 5 years ago because he was bored. He origionally said he'd fly over and see ds once a month. This has never happened. He's seen ds twice this year, once last year, not at all the year before. He only phones at christmas and ds's birthday, he's written once and never emailed ds. He wants ds to go and spend a week with him. I mind a little but I know it will be nice for ds to spend time with his dad and stepmum, however, his dad never responds to emails, I've asked him to confirm a date so I know when he wants ds to go, he's not done this. I've also asked him to find out whether ds needs a passport. He's not done this either. I've also asked him (several times) if he could phone/write/email ds every couple of weeks to ask him how he is and show ds that he's interested in him. He's not done this either. I don't want ds to leave his home and me for someone that can't be bothered to phone him. He does pay regular maintenance wich makes a small dent in what I pay out for ds every month but other then this we get nothing. Am I being unreasonable here? ds is 9 by the way, I've always looked after him by myself after his dad left before he as born. I want ds to have a relationship with him but I can't just be expected to hand him over to someone who ds doesn't know.