AIBU child disspaears in the middle of the night

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Had my daughters friend over for a sleepover last night and all went well they had a great time dancing about, playing and chatting as well as eating loads

Checked on them at 11.30 and all was well both cuddled up in their beds asleep, so headed to bed.

Woke up this morning at 9 to the girls mother on the doorstep, telling me the child had gone home in the middle of the night DD woke up/got up soon after.

Do I apologise for the fact that she left in the dead of the night and I didn't realise - as said checked on them before going to bed but didn't hear the door or her leave, have dogs but they were probably alseep

And with my 2.5 year old ds I only check on him before we go to bed and then not until he wakes in the morning so I don't imagine I would check any more than that when he's 9!!! Even if he has a friend staying. Would be delighted to still be sleeping undistrbed at 9am!!!

Would lock my front door though!

just posted on the other thread

you were wrong to have a house that anyone can let themselves into in the middle of the night and remove a child

they were wrong to take the child home without alerting you

bizarre

i think they are saying it is like a yale lock, so you can open from the inside but not outside.
very badly behaved of the child, should have woken you and go t you to phone her parents if their was a problem.

I don't think you can let yourself in - my parents have a latch where you can lock from the inside without a key, and slam is locked if you leave.

didnt girl unlock it surely - from inside

it is too hot for this madness

that's a no no for a mobile phone in a 9 year old isnt it

According to the other thread the house was opened from the inside by the nine year old.

Look, lady - whichever way you word this, whoever's perspective you put it from, the point is that those 9 year olds had a perfectly adequate level of supervision for nine year olds that aren't inclined to get up and vanish in the middle of the night. The nine year old who was picked up by her father should have woken the parents to tell them she was unhappy, the father should have woken the parents to tell them he was taking the nine year old.

The child is not an infant, and really should not be expected to be getting up in the middle of the night opening doors without telling anyone else. I would bollock my 5 year old for that. It was naughty.

Agree with thatbiggermanprison. Bad bahaviour from the child. And no further supervision should be expected.

But think the dad should have made sure that the parents knew before removing her from their house.

And still definately think that the OP is a bit blase about security. Even if it was a Yale lock that is locked once pulled shut they are bloody easy to break into with very little noise / mess. Your insurance wouldn't cover you for only locking your house in this way against burglary so I certainly wouldn't presume it was sufficient to keep my family safe while we were all asleep.

I managed to undergo an entire childhood without a sleepover of any kind. I'm hoping that ds will follow in my footsteps!

Insurance would cover you if you were inside the house, ours would

But there were dogs in the house, who may well be happy to let a known child walk past but would probably make some sort of noise if a stranger suddenly appeared in the house.

According to the other thread the mother in question has been out all day.
So - either this is a huge coincidence, or you're doing this to judge reaction.

You should have made sure the door was locked. But he childs Father should have made sure you knew that he had taken the child home. Also if the child was scared and wanted to go home then she should have told you or got your daughter to tell you. I think checking on them at 11.30 and going to bed was fine.

Stealth, I don't get this thread either.