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To feel upset that a good friend of mine has joined a "Ban all immigrants" group on Facebook?

36 replies

NorkyButNice · 20/07/2008 16:23

Couldn't believe my eyes this morning to find a friend of mine has joined a "Britain is full - ban all immigrants" group on FB - I never had any idea that she harbours such DM style views, having always been a lefty liberal at uni and since.

My dad was an immigrant from Africa, and I know she's got immigrants in her recent family too - just feel a bit that she'd join such a group.

Sent her a message saying "Surprised to see you on here" and she said it's just for a laugh.

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Carmenere · 21/07/2008 11:14

I would dump her

Thisismynewname · 21/07/2008 11:16

Flowery, I'm all for freedom to personally express yourself, actually - facebook is there to express yourself to people that you choose to share your information with. I think it's utterly wrong that potential employers search facebook to get an idea of what candidates are like.

If you're not actively looking for a job it wouldn't concern you anyway.

Thisismynewname · 21/07/2008 11:17

Btw - doesn't mean I'd want to be friends with someone who joins an anti-immigration group, but I do think it's entirely her right to join should she choose to.

flowerybeanbag · 21/07/2008 11:28

Oh absolutely it's her right to join and anyone's right to express their views in this way if they so choose.

And possibly it is wrong of employers to search facebook. I haven't done it myself and would not advocate it as a recruitment technique.

But the fact is it happens, and employers are only one group who may search - anyone you come across in a personal or official capacity may do the same if they are sufficiently nosey or bored. I just think it's a bit more prudent to be more discreet about one's views, that's all.

Monkeytrousers · 21/07/2008 18:44

First reactions are first reactions, TIMYN, lets not get into the difference between emotions and opuinions...or maybe we should..

TheFallenMadonna · 21/07/2008 18:49

It's not a moderate name though is it MT? 'Britain is full. Ban all immigrants.' It's pretty immoderate.

Dottoressa · 21/07/2008 19:03

"She said it's just for a laugh". That may have been to head off critical comments/discussion?

Either way, I'd think my friends are all entitled to join/say/believe whatever they like, however offensive I may find it!

kittywise · 21/07/2008 19:05

So she can only be your friend if she holds beliefs you agree with ?

andiem · 21/07/2008 19:10

yanbu
I would find it very hard to be good friends with someone who holds views which are diametrically opposed to mine I have one friend who starts off about immigrants and I just say we are never going to agree on this so it's best if we don't discuss it

Monkeytrousers · 21/07/2008 20:33

it's better not to assume anything - what's that phrase.."Never assume, for it makes an ASS out of U and ME."

You need to talk to your friend. She can be much of one if you feel you can't.

ravenAK · 21/07/2008 20:40

If it came up in conversation, I'd say I found the group disgusting tbh.

If it were possible not to discuss it - her right to hold & express her views, fine - I'd go for that - but my opinion of her would've taken one hell of a knock.

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