Name changed incase anyone (family etc.) knows my normal name but I doubt it'll be too hard to work out anyway as I am on a moaning rampage today.
Feel free to ignore but some virtual pats or hugs would be soooooooooooooooooooooooooo nice right now.
Am 2 weeks away from giving birth (well, due date anyway) and it's really evident now no one really gives a sh*t - I don't expect to be made a fuss of etc. (well, I do but I don't feel like this because I am not being treated like a princess) it's the fact literally only my mum gives a toss, and that's in her own passive aggressive reverse psychology (however you would describe my mum - I have no idea) way, but at least it's something. My parents divorced about 4 years ago, I have never been close to either but esp. not my dad as he worked abroad alot but my sister has nothing to do with him so what we do have is pretty big I guess. When they divorced he made me write out all the horrible things mum did, not to get custody of me but to get more money from the house. I just didn't think like that at the time though, because he's my dad. He can't/won't come to anything because my mum is there and he has a massive problem with her which is fair enough because he never shows an intrest in coming anyway (Birthdays, Christenings, my wedding...) In nearly 3 years now though he has seen my DS twice or three times, and none of those he actively asked/wanted to see him or me. He lives about 10 miles away, fully active etc. etc. so there isn't a reason I can think of. The only contact I have with him now is seeing him online, but he doesn't IM anymore - I leave my PC on all the time so he is able to. I have tried to contact him but it's so hard to talk to him I hahve just given up now. He won't give me his address then feels sorry for himself when he gets no cards or presents, but I keep buying things and he says "oh, don't worry about it". So this year he totally ignored my birthday. But he knows I am nearly due and hasn't asked once how I am, if I need any help (which I desperatly do) or anything - I see him online hour after hour and he just doesn't bother. AIBU to expect a 20 second email/IM??
Then there is DHs mum... have only seen her 2/3 times since being pregnant (because DH doesn't like going there anymore) but she never asks how I am, or more to the point how the baby is. When DH goes out of the room she just walks off. There is history there, but we (used to anyway) get along fine - civil chit chat at least anyway. She doesn't drive but is very 'active' with public transport, travelling to the coast, London etc. no problems but has never been here. We have said "oh, just knock on the door" etc. but she doesn't hasn't bothered. That's fair enough, but piled on top of not bothering to come to DSs 1st or 2nd birthday (depsite travelling to IoW for her other sons partners childs birthday, and having his last one at her house etc.) (she was offered lifts etc. also) and never bothereing to see how her soon to be grandchild is is really getting to me. She rung yesterday morning because DH offered her a new bed we don't have room for and as soon as I answered she just asked for DH... AIBU for thinking in my head "I f*cking beg your pardon, I am 2 weeks away from giving birth and you can't even say hello!!??!". I just feel so alone, DH isn't a supportive person really (not in a mean way, just he can't be my sole source of everything) and sorry for myself ATM I guess. I hear about other people having babies (for example) and having visitors at the hospital, flowers, balloons, cards but for me it's just going to be in, out asap then nothing. Obviously my mum will visit, but I am dreading her being in a bad mood or stressed out because she gets so nasty, but it's all I have got. Sorry for moaning and whinging on, just needed to get it off my chest.