To expect my DH to wait until I've finished being sick before going to work and leaving DS unattended?

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ARGH! He knew I was being sick (still have morning sickness at 33 weeks pregnant) and he knew he was leaving DS (2 years old) alone eating yoghurt for breakfast yet he still left the house. He needed to leave for work apparently - he's self employed and working at a friends house so another 5 minutes would not have made a difference.

Last thing I heard was him shouting "are you ok" to which i mumbled "bleurgh" or something you mutter in between violent vomitting and then heard the door slam. Predictably when I got downstairs (as quick as possible in the situation) DS had covered the room and himself in yoghurt.

DH cant see the problem - he "needed" to go to work obviously.

Argh - more of a feeling sorry for myself rant than an AIBU! What I would give to make men pregnant for just a day...

I have no idea elmo! If it wasn't the crunch crunch of a snail it was the long slurp of a slug being sucked in! If they had their finger up their arse at the same time they were in hog heaven!

oh i detest that habbit of putting fingers in various holes.

noses, bums, holding their willy's holes, up his wee sis's nose. his mouth

are there and holes i've missed?

oh aye, jamming random objects into key holes

ears. You missed ears.

specially relatives pets ears

I don't know but it was not clear if it was only yoghurt for breakfast

podrick are yu saying there was snails on the menu for breakfast also?

Snails - perhaps its the look of horror they enjoy when you catch them at it. DS particularly likes worms and cat hair. Not together though - that would be yucky.

Its really not about choking, being left alone for the day, ds being unattended etc - its the general feeling that he doesnt care (much deeper story really) and the fact it would have been 2 minutes just to check I was ok. In the reverse situation I would have waited - or in reality if he had been throwing up anywhere near the amount I do in pregnancy he would have been expecting me to stay home. Im not expecting him not to go to work just give me 2 minutes to pull myself together been as he was there and it wasnt an emergency.

Im not being a princess here and really only just about coping with this pregnancy and i just knew ds would start creating havoc once left alone and could do without having to clean up more mess. Really I would just like a bit of sympathy and understanding from him occasionally rather than him just expecting me to cope as normal.

Oh and to clear the snail thing up - there wasnt a side order of snails for breakfast lol. He can pick those himself if he's still hungry!

Have you told dh how you feel?

Yes I told him and he couldnt understand hence this post as I thought someone else would but from the majority of answers Im now thinking I am in the wrong and should just get on with things (and make a note to give ds far less messy breakfasts lol).

Saying that he cant understand why he would take any time off work for scans etc or after the baby is born either (back to work next day with ds) so dont know why I expected him to understand here. He doesnt talk about the pregnancy or ask how am I feeling so am guessing this problem is much deeper running than just a case of spilt yoghurt.

Anyway will stop whinging now!

xx

Well, I don't think it would have killed him to be 2 minutes late and it would have made a big difference to the start of your day. He could have made up for it by cuttig his lunch break 2 minutes short.

Dh is actually very good about these things, and has gone to any amount of juggling to help with the managing of our dd (chronic health problems). A lot of the time what you need is for them to show that they understand what it's like.

Whinge away - you are entitled imho - it's his baby too

Vomiting is orrible in any circs & who enjoys bending and mopping up yoghurt when they're feeling queasy ???...

But, as you say, it's not really about the yoghurt, it's just about showing a bit of consideration

Bide your time until after baby born and he has something non-contagious like a bad hangover ....and then hot foot it to the beautician's leaving him with dc .... xxxx

It's supposed to be a team effort so he should try to understand what is important to you. And he should also share his concerns/feelings with you as you cannot be expected to guess them.

Blokes, eh?