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Dh's mistake has forced us to move our bedroom furniture around, and I HATE it now.

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Oblomov · 17/07/2008 09:04

Warning, I pg and hormonal.
Spare bedroom, with fitted wardrobes, all mirrored all our clothes in. So we need to turn it into a nursery. Plasterer coming this sat. I am stripping wallpaper inbetween typing.
So we agree that we need to move most of our clothes into our room. Dh finds a really nice pair wardrobes to match our bed, on ebay, that comes with an overhead box/unit.
I am delighted. Love it.
Dh says lets sell fitted wardrobes from spare room. I say, can we have free standing ones, in new nursery. In a medium sized room, you can still see ceiling height, so gives impression of bigger room compared to fitted wardrobes. Dh sees a triple pine wardrobe,on ebay, that matches the double in ds's. Great I say, move ds's into nursery. Five down one wall. Lovely. I would prefer fitted he says. he finds some. O.k. I say, i don't really like them, but I will compromise, seeing as I am so happy with new one coming, for our room.

Now dh is very very good at diy. Plumbing, joinery, fitting ... anything.
Our pine wardrobes/unit arrives, for our room. It doesn't fit. Dh has made a mistake on the measuremments. I will cut it off at the bottom, flush he says. Please don't I say, it still won't fit. No he says, I have many tricks, it will be fine. Cuts it off. Still doesn't fit. He says, we will have to move bed round. We have minorly discussed this before and I never wanted to. Plus the whole point of buying new wardrobes/unit was so that it fitted the space we had.
So we move the bed round. I am pg, but even if I wasn't I would now have to squeeze sideways along wall to get into bed. I hate it. I hate lying in this new direction. But why ? I don't know why.
I say, lets cut out losses, sell wardrobes/unit/ and put bed back. Wardrobes cost £300, he said we can't sell them now cut. I told you not to cut them I said.

What do I do? I really hate it. but I don't know why. He says I am punishing him for making a mistake. He very rarely makes mistakes. I make plenty. But its not that. It really is because I hate it now. And that I was so excited before with the idea of how it would be, I was so happy to have found a set that fited. Now it is a real pain.

AIBU ? How can we compromise. Do I have to let it go.

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misdee · 17/07/2008 10:53

lol i'm sure dh would love the naturlist look from me

am having a decluttering week, have been to the tip and charity shops loads recently.

am trying to persude him to get rid of the tv in the bedroom or replace it with an LCD one so we can hang it on the wall and get rid of the unit it is resting on.

Oblomov · 17/07/2008 11:01

No, it was the naturalist look that got you in this dd4/no room for crib dilema, in the first place !!
We too have a tv in our room. Dh's mum has seen a great one , slim, in Currys (I think) reduced to £150, from £299. I am thinking that this could be good for us too.

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misdee · 17/07/2008 11:20

have seen a 15" one in currys online for £90

might just go for that one tbh.

just want the drawers out of my room ASAP. that free's up a small amount of space then.

QuintessentialShadows · 17/07/2008 11:26

Sorry. I am confused with this musical chairs with wardrobes game. But I sympathise, although I dont quite get what wardobes go where, and came out of what room, or indeed out of ebay. But, isnt the point of buying new stuff to get something better and not worse? Fine, he made a mistake. This is not about that. It is about the fact that you have made an UN-improvement to your bedroom. In the grand scheme of things, why hold on to something because it cost £300 when it doesnt really work well in your set up? You dont pay 300 to make something worse. Cut your losses and go back to your old or other new wardobes. Firewood.

SoupDragon · 17/07/2008 11:30

you don't like it simply because it is different. It will feel wrong for a while but then will get better provided you don't let yourself seethe over it

Being pregnant and hormonal won't be helping!

Pavlovthecat · 17/07/2008 11:33

You poor thing. I can only sleep in one direction too. And its the same direction in every house we have lived in too, even if it is on a different wall. It has to be West (or south West will manage with than) facing for some reason. It took me a good few houses to realise what the problem was, the bed just did not feel right in any other position.

Oblomov · 17/07/2008 11:33

QS, I'll let you off for the confusion. I have totally befuddled myself

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Oblomov · 17/07/2008 11:37

No, I don't like the bed position now. I liked it before. We did discuss moving the bed a while ago. I didn't like the idea then. I don't know why.
Dh occassionally has a move around of the lounge furniture. I am not that keen then. But I get used to it within a few days. this is different. I don't know why.
I am finding it difficult to imagine, like Soupdragon says, that it is just becasue it is new.
I think it may be more like Pavlov says.
WIERD.

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Pavlovthecat · 17/07/2008 11:41

Oblomov - your body has got used to facing a particular direction - I personally think it is to do with water/moon etc. You know Feng Shui style...

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