Friend is about 12 weeks pregnant. She seems to have been pregnant for ever, because as soon as she got her positive test she told everyone. Her friends, the teachers at school (as she stopped going in as soon as she found out), all other mums in the playground. There is no-one who didn't know. She walks around holding and rubbing her stomach, she stands there talking about how ill she is, how tired she is, all the things she will and won't be able to doo when the baby is born, how she will be having a planned CS etc etc etc, to the point that even those who haven't been directly told, know she is pregnant.
So, a few days ago I had to pick up friend's ds from school as she has not been feeling well. When we got home, my own ds asked me what was wrong with his friend's mummy and I explained that sometimes, when people are having a baby, they don't feel very well. So the next morning my ds (who is 6) said to his friend that his mummy had said that maybe his mummy wasn't feeling well because she's having another baby.
Fast forward to today, and friend comes storming over, absolutely fuming, saying that I had no right to tell my ds that she is having a baby. How it was meant to be a secret, and how she wasn't planning to tell him for at least another 4/5 months .
I had no idea it was meant to be a secret. At no time when she has been openly standing there talking to whoever will listen (and tbh a lot of people have already got fed up of listening) that it was a secret and not to tell anyone.
I didn't directly tell her child, I told my child.
If she'd told me discretely that she was pregnant then of course I wouldn't have been so open about it, but given how open she herself has been about the whole thing I never even considered it to be a secret from her own child (given the rest of the world already knows).
So ibu?