resenting these parents for sending dd1's "boyfriend" to another school?

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emkana · 13/07/2008 00:15

There is a boy in dd1's class whom she has been very close to since the beginning of Year 1 - they are now going into Year 3 and therefore the Juniors, and because the boy's parents don't rate the Junior school very highly they are sending him from September to a different school. I know I am being unreasonable really, but I'm still kind of angry and mainly sad about it, because poor dd1 is heartbroken and so is this boy. I know they can still be friends etc, but it just won't be the same...

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gigglewitch · 13/07/2008 00:26

awww. it is a shame when little friends move on.
However... on the bright side, boys and girls do tend to play in separate groups in juniors, and it might actually be easier for them to maintain their friendship if they get to meet up outside school

unknownrebelbang · 13/07/2008 07:55

Nothing to do with "boyfriends", but DS3 had two friends leave the school within about six months of each other and he was very upset.

So, yes YABU, but I understand why you're cross.

She will adjust, and she can maintain the friendship outside school.

jalopy · 13/07/2008 09:06

It's all part of life.....

onelittlelion · 13/07/2008 09:23

You can resent them a bit but not blame them really as they're only trying to do best for their son. I'd be sad too. Your dd and the boy will hopefully remain friends tho and she'll prob make lots of new ones too.

FranSanDisco · 13/07/2008 09:26

DD's (7 yo) best friend since pre-school is moving during the summer hols. She has cried and so have I (for her) but she is a sociable child who will make another best friend. It's part of life though a sad one I suppose.

onelittlelion · 13/07/2008 09:31

Hecate · 13/07/2008 09:42

You know it's unreasonable You can't expect someone to send their child to a school they don't think is good, so that he can be with a friend. That is failing him.

Having said that, the person you care about is your daughter, and she's upset, so of course it's understandable that you feel bad. It's just unreasonable to expect his parents to make any other choice than the one they've made, or to be cross with them for making what they feel is the best choice for their child.

What do you think of the 2 schools? If it matters a lot, why not send your daughter to his school?

Limara · 13/07/2008 09:51

Bless, meet up outside school that's what we did. I took ds out of his school and his mates were upset.

DD's best friend left last term and she was a little sad but has moved on.

There is a bright side so don't stress.

2shoes · 13/07/2008 10:30

I felt like this when dd's bf moved sn schools. dd was fine.

weblette · 13/07/2008 10:37

What's to say their friendship wouldn't have changed anyway in the next school year? Girls and boys do seem to diverge a lot in Yr3, even if they are best chums now.

Dd has seen several friends move on in this way and now has a far better friendship with them away from school than she probably would have had otherwise.

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emkana · 13/07/2008 20:11

I know you are all right, but it's still terrible to see your childrne hurt isn't it?

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