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to be pissed off with another mother at a party

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tegan · 12/07/2008 09:05

I went to pick dd1 (10) up from a birthday party last night.
party meant to finish at 7 but was told to comeback later as the kids were having fun.
went back at 7.30 and dd1 wasn't impressed that i had come to collect her but i had dd2 to get to bed.
on entering the house the mother of the party girl was giving fake/spray tattoos, i said i would prefer it if dd didn't have one due to her having skin problems to which the mother got really shitty and slammed the door behind me as we left.

Surely she should of asked parents if they minded their kids having such things done?

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Cammelia · 12/07/2008 12:18

If the party-giver was so frazzled why did she tell the op to go away and come back later

10 is still young enough to be "protected"

I'm still with you Tegan

jubbie · 12/07/2008 13:20

In answer to your original question, I would say that it is pretty much par for the course

shirleyghostman · 12/07/2008 13:32

I am also with you Tegan.

SqueakyPop · 12/07/2008 13:38

I would expect 10 year olds to be able to accept/decline tattoos by themselves - they should know the limits of their skin sensitivity, therefore I would not expect to get parental approval up front.

I gave out 'tattoos' (Forever Friends) at 8yo dd's party, and one of the girls politely declined because she thought she was sensitive and could she please take it home for her sister.

Maybe the back door was open, which caused the front door to slam?

Sobernow · 12/07/2008 16:51

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belgo · 12/07/2008 16:54

Children's skin can react quite badly to some of these paints/tatoos. It's an innocent mistake though if you don't know that.

Twiglett · 12/07/2008 16:56

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt tbh .. running parties takes effort and time .. she probably got momentarily peeved that when she asked you to come back later you gave them an extra half hour (yes you had a good excuse) and then seemed to make a fuss over what she considered no big deal

hunker's right (sage and wise)

and I don't think christina meant anything by direct quoting (when I do it, I copy and paste .. I'm fairly sure she did the same)

RustyBear · 12/07/2008 16:59

Can't see anything wrong with Cristina's post myself - do you think Cristina should have changed the spelling in the quote- which would really look like criticism - or spelled it wrongly herself in her post - which would be ridiculous.

Sobernow · 12/07/2008 17:03

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RustyBear · 12/07/2008 17:05

I just don't think she meant it that way at all.

Sobernow · 12/07/2008 17:15

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CristinaTheAstonishing · 12/07/2008 17:32

Sobernow - I was NOT ridiculing the spelling. I was wondering how you would know someone's views when you've never spoken to her. Not just "it seems to me the mother is overwhelmed and can't control her children" but to know so surely that she is anti-discipline. That takes some knowing, I think.

To get back to the spelling, I think there's a difference between a typo if/is and a whole word that is spelt incorrectly. But I was NOT referring to that.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 12/07/2008 17:33

Yes, of course I used the correct spelling. I think you're more snide than I am, Sobernow. I can say things if I want to, you know, I don't need to be so bloody underhand.

YouNeverKnowIMightFlounce · 12/07/2008 17:42

I think that you were fine in saying that you didnt want dd tatooed i wouldn't....

also aybe the lady was frazzled was it a large party?

unfitmother · 12/07/2008 17:49

How can OP know the woman's discipline ethos if she's never spoken to her?

Not impressed with either of them.

MrsTiddles · 12/07/2008 17:54

it was rude to slam the door, full stop.

who slams doors on their guests for christs sake?

its not like she took a shit on the carpet

Sobernow · 12/07/2008 18:25

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Sim43 · 12/07/2008 18:31

Personally I would have been a bit miffed if I had gone to pick my DS up from a party and told to come back later! You had perfect right to ask about the tattoo. It was very rude to slam door behind you. what a bitch!

BetteNoire · 12/07/2008 18:31

I'm surprised the mother was putting tattoos on other children without checking with the parents first.Lots of children have allergies / eczema etc.

But she was clearly just trying to give all the children a fun time.

The door slam was probably just a momentary lapse, and she allowed her irritation to come out. Perhaps she felt you were criticising how she ran the party?

I'd put it down to her being tired after organising and running a birthday party, and not read too much into it.

It was 7:30pm on a Friday night, after all.

As long as your DD had a good time, I'd think no more about it, tbh.

Limara · 12/07/2008 18:40

The mother who slammed the door sounds like a bag. I believe her back was up because she couldn't get her own way.

SqueakyPop 'I would expect 10 year olds to be able to accept/decline tattoos by themselves - they should know the limits of their skin sensitivity, therefore I would not expect to get parental approval up front.'
It's not a 10yo's responsibility to discuss her skin complaint whilst her mother was stood next to her and she probably felt peer pressure fgs.

2shoes 'so if you have such a low opinion of her why did you let her look after you child?'
tegan obviously felt happy to leave her 10yo there because she is probably well brought up and could be trusted to behave well and she wanted her dd to have a good time.

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