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To be enjoying my mid-life crisis?

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bornagaintart · 09/07/2008 09:46

Life's been good to me lately, DH has a new job, which whilst leaving us slightly worse off financially (but still OK) means he works 8-9 hours 5 days pw, rather than the 12-15 he was doing 6 days pw. Also means his alarm no longer goes off at 5am. This coupled with the fact my youngest started school full-time at Easter, means that for the first time in 8 years I'm not completely knackered all the time.

My own part-time job is going great, rewarding work, with a lovely bunch of people.

I started (and stuck to) a new exercise regime c. 12 months ago, and now have a better figure than I've had for 20 years. I have a light tan and a new wardrobe (see above) and am feeling great. DH is loving my new figure (and confidence) too and as we're both not so tired now....we're having a great time.

Other people have noticed a change in me too. Not just looks, I'm much more relaxed (fun?) than I used to be and some of the men I work with have started to comment on both aspects. Now even a few months ago, I would have been either embarrassed or offended by it, but actually I'm loving it and playing up to it Does this make me a terrible person? How likely am I to be making a fool of myself?

Have namechanged, so I'm obviously not quite as relaxed as I think I am

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BagelBird · 09/07/2008 09:48

Sounds great to me.
You are where I hope to be when my youngest starts school next year

TheProvincialLady · 09/07/2008 09:49

It doesn't make you a terrible person but just make sure it stays the right side of light hearted banter. If you are really feeling more confident then you don't need anyone else's attention to feel good.

I am so glad things are going well for you and that you are looking after yourself

Uriel · 09/07/2008 09:50

You sound like you're in a really good place, bornagain. Enjoy away!

reethi96 · 09/07/2008 09:56

I think 40 is more of a cause of celebration these days. As it is more common to have your last child around 35-36 a lot of women turn 40 around the time that their youngest starts school. So now 40 is the age that a lot of women have more time to be able to exercise and get their careers back on track.

Enjoy it!

BouncingTurtle · 09/07/2008 10:00

Well done you! And enjoy

waffletrees · 09/07/2008 10:04

Well done - I am feeling the same too. Feel like my old self now that alot of the drudgery is out of the way.

bornagaintart · 09/07/2008 10:36

Thanks all. TPL, that's what worries me (although I don't do that worry thing anymore honest). How do you know what the right ride of light hearted banter is?

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dizzydixies · 09/07/2008 10:39

good for you, you've worked hard now enjoy it

TheProvincialLady · 09/07/2008 11:53

Well I suppose if you do it too much with one particular person and you would be unhappy about your husband overhearing your conversation, that would be cause for concern. But if your relationship is good then I am sure you would not cross that line.

Niceychops · 09/07/2008 12:14

Good for you!!

I am currently exhausted and look about 10 years older with my 3 month old, so this is an uplifting tale!!!

bornagaintart · 09/07/2008 14:18

Thank you TPL, that's what I was thinking really, DH knows about everything that goes on at work and we have a bit of a giggle about it. Not sure that their wives would approve of some of the things they say to me though, but that's their problem (the men) isn't it? Provided I know nothing will ever come of it.

So what you're saying is I need to make sure I do it with everyone, not just a favoured few, right ?

Nicey - I'm not surprised with a 3 month old. I found things improved rapidly from about 12/14 weeks though, so it should be looking up for you too soon. X

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