My dh is not talking to me.

[narkymum]

I have agreed to work (baby sit agency) fri night. I checked the diary, nothing in it.
He now informs me he is going out a. we are broke thats why I am babysitting, an b. he had not told me this. he expects me to cancel on this family, which the baby sitting agency will be pissed about. I am not going to do that I think its mad to be spending money we havnt got. This is to go towards ourds birthday at weekend. This could actually turn into a rant about him so I will stop but I dont think IABU oh also he goes out every thursday anyway

get him to find someone to babysit for your kids

if he wants to go out he can find a babysitter

not talking to you is v v v childish

he is being unreasonable, you are working , so his social arrangements, that were not in the diary, take second place.

hes not talking to you???

Tell him you will organise a babysitter for him too as he is acting childish.

he is being mean.give him the number of the agency and tell him if he needs to go out to to get a baby sitter

YANBU

1. If money tight, earning more money is a priority over spending more money.

1. Buy a calender for the kitchen - all plans to be written on calender and IF IT'S NOT ON THE CALENDER IT DOESN'T COUNT

yes well he will prob ask one of the older dc to baby sit. Then they will expect to be paid! How bloody stupid.

Does he work during the day? Tell him he can't go to work next Tuesday coz you have to go out to lunch with your friends.

tell him to get fucked

I work day and night, cm in day baby sit at night. He has always behaved like a single man I just get on with it now after years of rows. At the mo he is really peeing me off though so friggin selfish.Could give you a list of e.g so difficult feel like a mug but don`t want to be single parent for sake of kids (that old chesnut)

this is about so much more than babysitting really, isn;t it?

lol custardo I do lots sometimes want to put that instead of greeting in b.day cards. He is also a sulker [yawn face]

Oh what a twat he is, a prize nob.

Letting you babysit cos you're skint, but expecting to spend money going out? If he didn't go out, and saved that cash instead, you wouldn't have to babysit for money.

oh, and the not wanting to split cos of the kids is what kept me with ex years longer than I should. If thats the only reason you're with him, it isn't a good enough one.

I've had this sort of problem. I work for Sitters and am always booked up at weekends.

I have had to arrange for the kids to have a sleepover at my mums before when I took a job and DH had already told me he was out

If its Sitters you work for they are really arsey when you cancel on them.

cheeky begger

you bring in the money. he spends it.

i agree with custardo.

let him sort out the mess, maybe in future he'll learn how a diary works

Agree this goes much deeper.

You'd be much better off as a single parent (not necessarily financially but in terms of less grinding stress and one less 'child' to look after).

she might even be financially madamez?

I was sh---ing myself about becoming a single parent as had never been alone. I was the ripe old age of 38 when I did it and never regret it for a single moment.
I get on well with ex and kids are very happy.

Anyway, may not come to that for narked. Think you both need to talk, talk and talk though.

sorry meant narkymum

yes what custardo said. idiot