Yes, i'm probably being unreasonable, in fact, i definately am, but i can't help feeling a bit resentful and pissed off.
Every so often a small group of friends from my old work have a night out, a couple of us have moved to other jobs and i have had a baby, its nice to keep in touch.
So, we go out every month or so. The problem i have is the time, and the venue really. Because most of the group have to be up early they arrange for the table at 6.30. It is out of town for me so i have to get a train at ten to six. I don't drive so i do appreciate that it is my problem there, but it is just so early. Too early because my DP has to rush home early from work (self employed) and this can sometimes be a pain but he doesn't mind. Too early because unless i do DDs dinner early it would mean that DP would have to do it when he gets in, again, he doesn't mind but it means a late dinner for DD. Also, i don't think it would hurt for someone to offer me a lift as my DP has often ferried drunken girlies home so they don't have to drive. All of this is because they don't understand the child thing but it does make me sad that they couldnt move things an hour later to accomodate me. I have mentioned before that it is too early and suggested venues in my town where i wouldnt have to either rely on public transport late at night or walk home.
I have had one hell of a day today, honestly you could write a sit com. First of all, rain rain rain - tetchy two year old. THEN something goes wrong with our electricity supply box and DP has to come home and fix it, making him run late on his job. SO, i had to take DD round to her nans because no matter how i tried to occupy her she wouldnt let daddy think. THEN when he finally finishes at 5pm, he has to go and pack up at his job around the corner. I come home to find DD has had raging diarroeah, so i go to change her bum, after getting stuff together for her and DPs dinner, which is now late,look at the clock 5.15. Run some water to change her bum, cold, runs downstairs to find boiler not plugged in (had to unplug everything),plug it back in, telling DD not to move - shite running down her legs, run back upstairs, run water again- cold. Boiler has an intermmitent fault that sometimes takes ages to fix, it is playing up. so i charge back downstairs and pull it to bits, blow down a few tubes and fix it, charge back upstairs, now 5.25 to find DD attempting to hang herself in the curtains, then have to chase her around the room as she has a giggle on and i dont want shite everywhere. Think to myself, this is ridiculous, not going to make the train, still looking like shit after a day of not going anywhere. OK so i could have been more organised, well i would have been if i didnt have to go out all afternoon to keep DD out of DPs way. Get dinner on at 5.40 with very little chance of catching the train. DP got caught up with client, didnt get home until 6.05 missed train. He offered to take me over in car, but this would have screwed up dinner for DD as i had already started cooking, hoping he would get in intime for me to run brush through hair and run to train station. By this time, the last thing i wanted to do was rush to a resturant and sit and gossip with the girls. The alcohol would have been nice though .
Am i being unreasonable to think that my friends could make the meeting time an hour later to accomodate my family? Or am i no longer a significant member of the group as i dont hvae much contact with them now?
I have told DP he will need to make up my woes to me in some way later - i was thinking massage and bottle of wine .