Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

Original poster

...to not want to wake my son up from a nap to take him to baby group?

20 replies

glitterkitty · 07/07/2008 13:39

I had arranged to meet a girl I know at baby group this pm, as my ds (14 months) usually sleeps 10 till 12. However, of course today he didnt actually go to sleep till 12, so I had to text and say I couldnt make it. She goes every week and has friends there so I knew I wasnt really ruining her afternoon.

I just feel a bit weird now as she texted me back to say 'Cant believe your so nice to him! I just take dd with me whatever I'm doing'

I feel sort of guilty now- let me know am I being overprotective (or something) parent?? I hadnt really considered waking him up when hes sleeping, Im usually so grateful he is asleep!

OP posts:

SoupKitchen · 07/07/2008 13:41

Are you relly being protective or want to spend more timeon MN.

I would let him have his nap too

Milkysallgone · 07/07/2008 13:43

Absolutely NU!! The poor baby's tired, you're right to let him sleep. I know I'd much prefer mumsnetting relaxing while they sleep,to sitting around making small talk with a bunch of people I probably have nothing in common with .

cheesesarnie · 07/07/2008 13:43

let him sleep-carry on mning!you know you want to.baby group will be on again.i wish my youngest still napped!so make the most of it now.

butwhybutwhy · 07/07/2008 13:44

Better to leave him sleep than have an over tired grumpy toddler IMO.

Lizzylou · 07/07/2008 13:46

Definitely let him sleep.
You can catch up with your friend another time.

Original poster

glitterkitty · 07/07/2008 13:46

...I'm only on here for research purposes

Obviously Id rather be sitting in a dirty church hall with a cup of weak tea while ds hands me cars...

actually I wanted to go, nothing else on after 3 I'm going to have a boring afternoon now!

OP posts:

PussinJimmyChoos · 07/07/2008 13:47

Nap everytime! My DS is two and he still has one nap in the day and I will fit activities around the nap and I have cancelled things if his nap time has changed - they are little and they need their sleep and obviously, we need our mnet time

YANBU

artydeb · 07/07/2008 13:48

Definately NBU - my ds sleeps beautifully every lunch time and I feel bad that DD (now nearly 5) was dragged around with me to all sorts of activities. I know now that given the chance she would prob have loved to sleep!

Original poster

glitterkitty · 07/07/2008 13:48

Oh thank you all! I was half expecting to be told to get him up, into sling and stride around purposfully doing useful social stuff.

goes to get peanut butter to celebrate

Thank you! I feel less stupid now.

OP posts:

PussinJimmyChoos · 07/07/2008 13:51

Tbh, I personally feel there is too much trekking around to groups these days and we are made to feel like the worst parents if...gasp..shock...horror...they have actually had a day in the home and not gone out!!

jollydo · 07/07/2008 13:51

I'd have let him sleep - for me the point of baby groups is for my baby/toddler's amusement not mine (I'm with milkysallgone on the small talk nightmare )& if he's asleep he's happier being left. Had it been something really exciting I might have woken him but you can go to baby group next week. Has the sun come out where you are - maybe you could take him to a park when he wakes?

cheesesarnie · 07/07/2008 13:53

glitterkitty-relax!

LoveMyGirls · 07/07/2008 13:57

I think its nice she wants you there, nice to feel wanted imo.

Doesn't do any harm to have an afternoon at home though.

I always do groups in the morning so it wears them out and we all get out for a bit then afternoons are for lunch and napping

meglet · 07/07/2008 14:12

YANBU. If you wake him up then he'll probably just be in a bad mood for the rest of the day.

I never wake mine up to go to non-essential appointments.

scaryteacher · 07/07/2008 15:16

I always worked on let sleeping babies lie, and still do if it's a non school day...he's 12 now!

LittleMyDancing · 07/07/2008 15:21

I've always been at how many people seem to expect babies to just be carted around like parcels. I'm not an overprotective mother by a long chalk, but I always felt that one thing that was really important was letting LOs have their undisturbed, uninterrupted sleep time.

Every so often disrupting it is ok, but as a rule if possible DS slept in his cot or pram at his nap times and was not woken up until he felt like waking up.

Enjoy the peanut butter

rookiemater · 07/07/2008 15:25

YANBU. I have just had to cart my catterwauling toddler up the stairs for a nap. He needed it ( is fast asleep now), I needed it ( hideous horrible period feel like crap and have spent last hour playing with tree trunks with him outside).

The only point of baby groups is because you get to ignore your child for a couple of hours whilst you sip tea and chat to other adults. Strikes me that child sleeping is even better as a) you don't have to go out and b) you can slurp your tea and eat your peanut butter at home and c) you can ignore your child with impunity as it is sleeping.

dal21 · 07/07/2008 15:34

Totally agree with everyone else! Your LO may have been ok at the playgroup, but once home the remaining time would have been spent with a grumpy, upset, grizzly baby right through to bedtime. Now both you and bub are happy and relaxed.

But it is sweet of your friend to miss you. Invite her over to yours for a coffee if it isnt too late?

tillystar · 07/07/2008 16:00

You know your baby best. My little lady is a grump if she doesn't get her head down around 12 so we usually work around that and do either mornings or afternoon,s but not both.

From time to time I will make arrangements where this has to be overridden and we'll try and plan naps around that or she'll have to sleep in her buggy, but in general its not worth the misery come bed time!

Original poster

glitterkitty · 07/07/2008 21:26

Thank you all! I did suggest another date so we will meet up later... and your quite right about him being miserable if he hasnt slept- I know he wouldnt have enjoyed himself if I had dragged him out.

So instead I did lots of mumsnetting housework

OP posts:

Flip