Not to let my 8 year old dd swim in an unsupervised pool?

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Her friends who live down the road have a pool, their mum lets them swim without an adult. I wouldn't let her swim with them today would you?

It depends. Can your DD swim safely and well? How deep is the pool? How many children are there? Can they swim? Is there an adult within earshot?

No! yanbu I wouldn't my dd in her pool without me being there and it's never filled more than a third(takes too bloody long to fill anyway)

At 8 mine could swim better than me. So yes I would let them (and have done so).

Both my children (8&10) can swim much better than I and are totally safe in water. I do let them swim unsupervised, but that's because they are safe.

I think better to be safe than sorry, try compromise, take a book, and sit near for an hour whilst she plays see how it is.

My dd is a good swimmer, they are not so strong (IMO). There would have been 2 girls and one boy. It's a big pool - at least 8 feet deep with a springboard.

Sadly the Mum has MS and cannot walk very well at all and is almost always in the front room

I did offer to go and supervise, but dd was "embarrassed"

Yes I would. But I would let mine do lots of things that it seems no one else would!

seeker, I am thinking maybe I should have let her - but what about accidents, what if one of them bangs her head?

No I wouldn't.

I think this is down to personal choice tbh. I personally wouldn't see the benefit of her being able to swim unsupervised as being worth the risk of her drowning. Although the risk is quite small, it's significant enough for me to go on the side of not allowing it and the benefit isn't so overwhelmingly great that the risk would be acceptable for me.

YANBU. I definitely wouldn't allow it in these circumstances. If anything did go wrong the mum may not be able to rescue them.

YANBU - she is your child and you know her capabilities.