Ok just need a different perspective...
Mum texts me last night "fancy going to Barcelona"
Half an hour later she rings (even though she knows its baby bed time) and says we are thinking of going in Dec for her dp's birthday, staying in same apartment they have stayed in before and are going to invite my sis and her boyf too.
Now in theory it sounds like a nice idea, ask dp he says "no" so I leave it for a wee while.
Mum texts again to say they have booked their flights and apartment.
Now thinking about/talking to dp some more and looking at flights.. we have the following problems
dp is self employed - cant really afford to take 2/3 days off in dec aswell as xmas leave
No cheap flights from where we live - £250+ minimum
Not really sure that an 18 month old will appreciate being dragged to Barcelona for 3 days - hassle of flights/not a huge amount for him to do
But the main problem is that I know that when I tell her that we dont fancy it that there will be a fall out - tbh if she had wanted us all to go away then it would have been nice if we had all sat down together and discussed times/places/accomodation/or even if we actually wanted to go, before mum booked it? Is that unreasonable?
Feel better now....Although still havent told her...