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To be totally peed off with DDs prospective nursery

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lucyellensmum · 02/07/2008 17:07

Right, i have had a totally WASTED afternoon. Not only that so has DP who is already stressed to the eyeballs.

So bloody annoyed - went to Parents meeting for when she starts pre-school, supposedly in September. Went to meeting, DP took afternoon off work (self employed and running late anyway) because the invitation implied that it would be informative, show us around the school etc. Had to reserve one or two places.

We gets there, sits down - lots of disgruntled toddlers (well what else were we supposed to do with them). No arrangements made to keep them occupied while the adults listened to what was said (i enquired previously whether it was OK to bring children so assumed SOMETHING was in place). So as a consequence could not hear a word that was said due to whinging tots (who could blame them!), my own included. We were told to hand around forms to say what sessions we would prefer, a list of things they must take to school and an appointment list of when we could attend an individual meeting before the start of term, when we would be given a start date. So i asked, will they not be starting in Septemeber then -"oh no, we are doing staggared starts, we are HOPING to get them all started by xmas" . That was it, meeting over. We asked to be shown around - not possible due to security reasons could they not have arranged body guards or something .

This means DP has had to put his job even further behind (therefore getting paid!!) and completely wasted an afternoon. The meeting was a shambles, no one knew what was going on. No introductory speil about "this is what we want to acheive at our pre-school" that we were expecting.

Am i being unreasonable to expect not to have my time wasted just because this is a state pre-school and not a day nursery so they are assuming then i am a SAHM who just has time to waste like this?? [incandescant with rage emoticon - quite honeslty a red face doesn't cut it].

Was very impressed with what i saw when i went to the open day LAST YEAR, was excited and wanted to show DP, after all he might like to see where DD is going to be looked after - We don't even get to pop our head around the door. I didnt put her name down for anywhere else and i'm begining to wonder if i have done the righ thing [worried].

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LIZS · 02/07/2008 18:01

Still no guarantee she'll get in if oversubscribed unless private.

savoycabbage · 02/07/2008 18:13

GET OUT! Get out while there is still time!!

When my dd went to nursery, a state attatched to a school, it was CRAP. They had no idea what was going on and couldn't make any decisions at all such as when the children were starting, which door we were going to come in, where to put the library books, if they should sit on the carpet when they came in or find a (not set up activity) NOTHING.

It was totally disorganised and my dd was confused constantly. She began to feel bewildered as she never knew what to do Should she put her name card in the basket like yesterday - oh no! They are not out today!

It could be the same place.

I took her out after a term as one morning she had to wear spotty clothes instead of her uniform for Children in Need. She was wearing stickers all over her clothes and she didn't ask why. I realised that she was so used to not knowing what was going on that she wasn't bothered anymore.

She is somewhere else not and thriving.

lucyellensmum · 02/07/2008 18:20

thats worrying savoy - will definately book another viewing i think. As it is, i might have to get a job so will have to think about nursery day care instead

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dilemma456 · 02/07/2008 23:26

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lucyellensmum · 03/07/2008 09:53

I am going to make an appointment to look round and take it from there. I want DD to enjoy herself but if the staff are so disorganised im not sure. I went and asked if it would be possible to look around yesterday as DP had taken the afternoon off work for that purpose and was told sorry, there is only one person covering for me so its not possible just now. There are going to be 26 children in each session. Trouble is, its probably too late to secure a place elsewhere now

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savoycabbage · 03/07/2008 10:16

God it sounds RUBBISH!

It is better not to send her anywhere than somewhere like this.

Put her name down now for other places. People are always moving, dropping out etc so there is a big chance you can get in somewhere else. I know a few crackpots who accepted more than one place for their children so thay could choose between them later. When you go ask questions that require specific answers so you can see if they know what they are doing organisation wise.

Don't send her somewhere crap just because there is nowhere else.

lucyellensmum · 03/07/2008 10:24

When i visited the first time savvoy, i was so impressed with it that i didn;t feel i needed to look elsewhere, now im worried i have mad a big mistake

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savoycabbage · 03/07/2008 10:38

Me too! It was great. I am fussy as hell, I read all of the OFSTEDS and I was a teacher too before I had my dc so I knew what I was looking for. What happened I think is that they got a new head in the summer holidays and she appointed a different nursery teacher. The head was a very poor leader and she couldn't make any decisions and neither could the teacher.

One rainy day I asked the teacher if I could leave my dd's wellies at school or if I should take them home with me and she said

'I don't know'

MAKE A DECISION WOMAN! IT'S ONLY BLOODY WELLIES!

love2sleep · 03/07/2008 14:29

Following on from my post earlier about a similar shambles at DS1's prospective nursery I've decided that I don't care at all about their inability to organise my visit properly and that all that really matters is the quality of care they provide the children. I'm going ahead with his booking and will see how it turns out. I guess you have to think about why this meeting was a shambles and whether it has any consequences for the things that matter to you. Clearly they didn't think the thing through in advance but maybe this doesn't necessarily make them a bad nursery

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