for thinking my friend is bizarre in making such a fuss over chips when she gives her dd packets of crisps?

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My friend and i were having lunch today with our 20mth old dd's. My friend gave her dd a packet of mini chedders, her dd ate some then wanted to grab a chip off of my friends plate.

My friend said to her dd "No, you can't have that, chips are bad."

I thought to myself, how bizarre that you would be ok giving your dd mini chedders and crisps in general as part of her lunch most days but chips are bad? Surely crisps have more salt etc in than chips would have?

I have heard my say before about chips and how her dd has never had them, said in a they are bad kind of tone.

AIBU for thinking my friend is bizarre in making such a fuss over chips when she gives her dd packets of crisps?

It's not great to refer to any food as "bad" imo.

No she is a loon.

Nope, that is certainly bizarre.

how odd. maybe she was doing it for your benefit? like 'oh my child doesnt eat chips, they are not good for her' and didnt think you would notice the other stuff?

maybe i am making excuses for her??

no still doesnt make sense.

You should have seen her face when i gave my dd a few smarties from my tube!

No, YANBU in thinking she's a bit odd.
I doubt the Cheddars will do any long-term damage, but it does seem to be quite wonky thinking on her part.

Chips much better than crisps, IMO - only potatoes and oil (OK, might be salty, but so are crisps!). Goodness knows what flavours/ingredients/additives are in the crisps.

but she gives hers mini cheddars?

Mini cheddars are so much saltier than regular chips..... madness....

Maybe she is just a greedy cow and wanted to keep them all for herself

she is thinking 'cheddars are baked hence good, chips are fried hence bad'

she's unfortunately exhibiting PFB tendencies

do not fret, she will calm down

but chips are not always bad. especially chunky ones that are homemade. they are part of a good mixed diet.

IMHO, it is never good to refer to anything as 'bad', not ideal maybe, but not 'bad'.....makes it all the more desireable IME.

and to say that when said child is eating a snack like mini chedders is a bit odd.

And fat is not bad! It is villified beyond all reason.

Children need fat to grow/develop.

A standard oven chip is 5% fat per 100g, so it's hardly a fatty food anyway.

I give DS chips sometimes. They are oven chips and the only ingredients are potato and oil. I wouldn't give him mini cheddars which I am sure are full of all sorts of crap and very salty.

everything in moderation!

Chips are far better for you than crisps surely?

I hate the idea of any food being called "bad" TBH. All are fine in moderation; you just need to teach about healthy living and eating that's all.

And our chips are home are pretty healthy actually - potatoes baked in the oven with a drizzle of olive oil and a few sprigs of rosemary.

And if she thinks chips are bad, why the blardy hell was she eating them, fine example to her daughter!

Id rather give my kids oven chips ossasionally over 'mini cheddars' - way more crap in them.

YANBU

My SIL commented when I gave my DD a treat size pack of Haribo, because they were full of sugar etc.

A few weeks later at her house she gives our DC's come gingerbread shapes and huge tubes (bigger than toothpaste) of icing to decorate them with.

My dd decorates and put lid on her blue tube. SIL DC throws biscuit on floor and runs off to her room and sits on bed sucking all the icing out fo the tube. SIL laughs it off saying 'oh she always does that'

Am I wrong, please forgive me for thinking that a tube of sugar and food colouring is much worse that a packet of 8 tiny jelly sweets.

My dd is 15 months and today while walking back from toddler group we stopped off at the chip shop and bought a portion of chips unwrapped. We then proceeded to the park to eat them.... This is the first time we have done this and dd thougth it was great eating food out of a bag. I must be such a bad mummy!! (my excuse is I am pg and needed some food.)

The worst part is my friend has the worst diet ever. Never eats proper meals at proper times, eats junk food all the time and rarely ever eats vegetables.

I always think good eating habits for your children mainly helps when the parent has good eating habits themselves!

Sounds like your friend is doing her best to give DC better eating habits than she has. But is woefully mis-informed.

God - here in Belgium chips (and mayo) are the national dish - along with waffles (moreish) and of course more chocolate than you can throw a stick at....followed by generous helpings of beer! Strangely the locals are not all complete lardarses. (I am though cos the wine is loads cheaper than UK Everything in moderation surely..(apart from the wine)....My dd's school dinners would probably be drooled over by Jamie Oliver - anyone for sole meuniere? But she gets chips (and chicken nuggets) once a week with ketchup and mayo and I don't object to the odd bag of crisps or haribo. In fact I haven't had a bag of mini cheddars for ever - they only do strange crips like spag bol flavour here - and now I want some!!!!

Spring onion flavour....Big sigh - better go and eat that jacket potato and salad that awaits me....

Lardybump, you sound like a great mummy!!! Chips in the park is an experience no child should miss out on!! Even better in winter I think.
Everything in moderation IMO.