to not want DS2 to 'have sex' at a birthday party?!?!

[NotQuiteCockney]

At least not according to DS1 ... he came back from a birthday party on Sunday to tell me that DS2 had 'had sex' with a girl there. DS2, and the girl, are both 3.

I think they kissed. I know they didn't really have sex, or anything like it, but we were all quite about it!

According to DS2, he kissed his friend a bit, but they both got bigger and then she turned into a boy, and he doesn't want to kiss boys, so he stopped kissing her, and then they both went back to a normal size. Any attempts on my part to get a more ... sane? ... explanation get me the answer 'it's just a story'.

I would have raised eyebrows at that one too.

My DS had a friend back recently and they were playing upstairs, my DS and DD came down naked and when I asked why they had no clothes on my DS said the friend had told them to take their clothes off and lie on the bed together.

Really had no idea how to handle that one My DS and DD do run around naked together but have never initiated play in that way with each other. Didn't know if I should have done or said something to anyone. Felt kind of weird about it but not sure if I am over analysing. When I, had the chance to speak to someone who did not know the family they said I should have told his teachers, what does everyone else think? Don't think we'll be inviting him round again though....

Sorry for the hijack!

How old is your DS?

My kids regularly do topless wrestling, with whatever guests they have - but I'm pretty sure it is wrestling. (They're 6 and 3.)

I would have mentioned the fact of the game to the friend's parents maybe, but I don't think I'd be too worried ...

(Oh, I should add, the birthday party in question was in a museum play area. I am really sure nobody got naked.)

DS is 6, DD is 3.

err can't see what this has to do with the teachers. Is doctors and nurses not allowed anymore. This is all perfectly normal behaviour.

As a teacher I'd be more worried about your mn nickname actually ?

I think she meant, report it to the teachers, because initiating behaviour might be indicative of some sort of sexual abuse?

It does sound pretty normal to me, though. And it's not unreasonable that a child might have wandered in on adults lying down naked together.

I do have to have a chat about DS1 about what sex is, maybe. Well, I told him that sex involved doing things to make babies, iyswim, which seems to have got through.

Sounds perfectly normal to me, don't worry.

Mmm, a strange one. Is the child telling the story about their sibling (who is 3?) and the other child is how old?

Getting bigger?
Turned in to a boy? Mixing up real life and stories?

DS2, who "had sex", is 3. DS1, who told the story about him having sex, is 6.

The getting bigger and turning into a boy, are both in the words of DS2.

He saw his friend today, and really had fun with her, anyway.