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Children being allowed to go to the toilet at school

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Whatanerve · 23/10/2026 19:33

What is your opinion on children being allowed to go to the toilet during lesson time at school?

Dd is 11 and recently stated year 7.

The toilets are locked during lesson time. The teachers do not let them leave class to go. If they do have to go in an emergency they get a negative log, even if they have a toilet pass it’s still logged.

Dd has always had a sensitive digestive system and will often need to poo multiple times a day, sometimes she’s have to hold it in and then end up constipated. She also gets desperate for a wee especially around her totm.

She said the queues are often too long to go at break so she’s having to hold it in all lesson, she’s getting stressed and upset.

I spoke to the school about a toilet pass but they have said you must provide medical evidence.

She doesn’t have a diagnosed medical condition though, she just needs to go a lot.

I have severe IBS and an overactive bladder but I wasn’t diagnose until I was in my thirties.

Aibu to take her to the doctors? The trouble is I don’t know if there is anything medically wrong and I don’t want her out on tablets, also she feels embarrasses to say she gets a dodgy stomach she’s self conscious like most kids would be.

But it feels like pushing for a medical diagnosis is the only way to get her the support she needs.

OP posts:
Strawberrycup · Today 15:39

That so wrong that school doesn't allow kids to go to the bathroom when they need to go I think that really wrong and kids need to go and it not fair for a child to hold theirs pee or poop up so long and sometimes they might have an accident on themselves just take ur child from that school I really hope when my son gets older he doesn't have to go through that at his school when he gets bigger

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