abortion when no family

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i know i’m going to get judged but i need advise

my last period was 18th august but it was weird and lasted 11 days which is not normal, i missed my sept period but didn’t think much of it due to the long one but im due on again and nothing so i took a test and im pregnant

im not with the dad anymore, i ended things and i don’t want to take him back like before, me and my children are happy and my youngest is only nearly 9 months

i want to focus next year on us, we have just been offered a house and even tho i would have another if i have unlimited money and time and space i cant have another it’s not fair on my children but i dont know how far along i am or how to have an abortion what no help, just me and my children

i don’t know why i always do this

Bringing another child into your chaos would be utter madness.

OP it’s totally your choice. I’d speak to BPAS who will offer non-judgemental practical advice on terminations and can help talk you through the options and get booked in - https://www.bpas.org/.

Ok so they are in school. Make appointments for the times they are in school and figure out how far along you are , and whether you can have an abortion with the pills or surgical. Even if surgical, it’s a matter of hours that you’re out of the house. You’ll be around , just not at your best. Keep the baby with you and the kids will just have to have lots of telly and something easy like pasta for dinner. Get the 17 and 14 yo to help out with packed lunches and supervision. It will all be over in a few days. It’s doable, even if not ideal.

Can't see how the house will be big enough if you keep having more.

Your eldest two are old enough to be helpful with the younger ones while you're recovering from a 'minor procedure'. Would suggest you go for the surgical option so it's done and dusted. Wouldn't be ideal to be taking pills at home and waiting for the bleeding to start when you have a house full of kids. Make yourself a GP appointment. And honestly, you need a coil or something, why do you keep getting pregnant? Do you not use any contraception?

OP please speak to your GP or BPAS. Abortion is YOUR choice and there’s plenty of judgemental women on here who would probably be quick to claim they’re pro-choice yet not actually respecting your choice. If you choose to have an abortion then I hope it goes well and you are able to heal mentally and physically. If you choose not to then I wish you and your baby the best of luck in the world. Ultimately it’s a decision only you can make.