To not want my 5yo to go to a swimming party (safety concerns)

[CountessDracula]

It is at a time where we can't go

I feel that someone may not pay attention for 2 seconds and dd might drown

Is that OTT?

I would feel the same.

I would never hold a swimming party for a group of five year olds. Far too much responsibility. Can just about manage pass the parcel.

And I wouldn't let my child go on their own if they couldn't swim.

I think 5 is too young for a swimming party

it is a 6yos party

DD can swim but not reliably

not at all, DS has not gone to two or 3 swimming parties for this very reason, he was too young, swimming not good enough, i could not accompany him due to DD being a baby.. could note rely on other parents to mind him. so YANBU

I would find out whether there are lifeguards at the pool. Not sure a pool would hold a party unless they put sufficient staff on to supervise.

oh good
I thought maybe I was being over-protective

but agree 5 is very young.

Yes but lifeguards can't watch everyone all the time

IMO she needs one on one in a pool

I'm with you, CD, would not let ds (nearly 5) go to a swimming party without 1-1 supervision. So if one of us couldn't go, neither would he.

if i couldnt be there then NO WAY. Far too dangerous.

No would definitely not let 5 yr old go - too young. Unless they are a mermaid of course . (Can you tell we have H2O on way too much here!)

I wouldn't send my 5 year old to a swimming party.

No I wouldn't be happy, I wouldn't let my DD go.

actually even if I could go i don't think I would
The invitation said that they were looking for volunteer parents - imagine being responsible for someone else's child and they drowned

I wouldn't volunteer to help either - far too much responsibility.

we did a swimming part when ds was six. all children HAD to have a parent in with them. them's the rules.

it was great though and super fun. all the kids loved it!

DD went to her friends 5th birthday party - it was a pool party(dd was 4 at the time). I was there but didn't get in the pool. In addition to the lady running the party, there were volunteer parents. It was all perfectly safe. All children wore arm bands and were restricted to a fairly small bit at the shallow end of the pool. There had to be a ratio of 1 adult for every child. Some children did not want to get in without their parents, but the majority did and had a fantastic time. The parents who didn't get in could watch from the sidelines, it was all very safe. I would be happy for dd to go again.

I wouldn't have sent ds alone either

I thought about this for his 5th birthday actually partly as a way of MAKING parents stay - I hate looking after a bunch of 5 yr olds and wanted a party where people would stay instead of buggering off

I was told on here that it was the worst idea in the world and that some people would actually emigrate to avoid having to go in a pool with other mums/dads from the school gates....

we didn't do it, obviously!

My dd went to one at the age where the whole class was invited. They had a long run way thing with obstacles they had to try to get past, of course the think ran all the way down to the deep end.

At that time dd couldn't swim very well and she fell in and had to be hauled out by a life guard. I was sitting at the side whilst all the drama unfolded and was horrified.

Dd spent the rest of the time swimming in the shallow end with a woggle.

There were no adults in the water at all, just two lifeguards on patrol.

Sorry that was one adult for every 2 children.

My DD4 has been to 2 swimming parties this year but she only goes if my DH goes in with her. He used to be a life guard.
I would'nt let her go without him.

No way. Personally I think swimming parties should be 8+. My DH was in the water with my DS when he was 5 and turned away to talk to someone. DS went under and couldn't get back to the surface. Even though DH hauled him up in seconds it took us about 2 years to get him back in the water.