AIBU to think some supermarket shoppers have become so rude?

[Mamma23]

Does anyone else find that people in supermarkets are just so rude nowadays? No ‘excuse me’ to get past, no ‘thank you’ if you move your trolley out of the way etc. Not sure if it’s my local area, a Tesco thing or just everywhere nowadays? Normally I just let it go and carry on with my shopping but today really irked me!
In Tesco today, my baby (almost 1) in the seat in the trolley. I stopped momentarily in front of the milk to grab some and a woman comes along, pushes my trolley (with my child in!) into me, then leant in front of where I was leaning to grab her milk. I did say something along the lines of ‘excuse me would have sufficed’ and she walked away grumbling under her breath but I just thought it was so rude!

You could just wait untill they are finished

I consider myself FAR more patient than most, but why should I have to wait 10-15mins for someone to faff about in front of the shelf I need?

I would only ask someone to move if they have been having a conversation right across the width of the aisle with multiple others and no one can get past, have been standing there on their phone for ages or otherwise causing a significant wait. I don't ask someone to move for the fun of it or if they are just moving along doing their normal shopping!

I tend to avoid supermarket shopping where possible these days. I’m a granny now so I can avoid the busiest times and often go to a smaller supermarket in the evenings. If necessary I will do an online shop or a delivery. I absolutely refuse to go anywhere near the big Tesco in our town as I find it completely intolerable.

Shops, cars, everywhere, people are so much ruder, more impatient, and more entitled than they used to be.
In a supermarket I was getting something off a bottom shelf, I had to bend right down because what I wanted had been shoved to the back of the shelf. My long mac was T-trailing a bit on the floor. A woman actually stood on my mac and leaned right over me to grab something off a top shelf. I couldn't stand up because she was crowding me in, and even if I had, my mac would probably have torn because she had her full size 8s on it.

If ever I have wanted to get physical...that was the day.😡

I can’t stand supermarkets but yes, rudeness is on the rise in general. What bothers me most about public places is people randomly stopping in the middle of pavements, shopping aisles and just talking. When asked to move they make you feel like you’re the issue. Getting shoved out of the way when you’re looking for something is also something I hate.

We see it all working in a big named supermarket!

Or just get your shopping delivered

I would not have used the phrase 'have become' as that suggest something very recent.

Otherwise agreeing with the OP. The more options people can have to communicate without speaking face to face, the less they will do so when it is needed.

The trouble is that you could be the person who stands there and reads the label on every tin...their baked beans, you bought them last week, you know what's in there...my dad's partner used to drive us both mad doing it

I have arthritis too which affects my mobility and I'm in my 40's. It doesn't mean the rest of my senses are so dulled that I have no clue that someone is standing nearby waiting to get something from the same shelf! Acknowledge them and take 1 step to the side if needed. No one said you need to instantly jump out of the way!
Also, please clarify how the person nearby would know how long you'll be until you are done???

To be fair this is the first time you mentioned it was 10 minutes,.

Still just wait, you are not more important. I wait for other people aswell, it's called tolerance and respect.

@Mamma23
Totally agree.
Ive shopped in the same supermarket for 30+ years, going way back when it was Presto, then Safeways now Morrisons.
I chat to a lot of the staff and everyone dreads their turn on the self checkout as people are so rude.

Like I said just wait. I wait for other people. It's called tolerance and respect

So this is a thread full of people angry about people they think are angry

As I already asked, how do others know how long you will be be?
The polite thing to do is at least acknowledge that they are waiting to access the same shelf and either move to the side or say 'I shall just be a minute'.

There’s a particular age group which are frequently guilty of this kind of behaviour, it’s entitlement

Its many years since I shopped in a supermarket - I always have home delivery. My aim is to get in and out as quickly as possible and I take no prisoners. When I want someone to move its a "Mind your back thank you!" I a hearty teacher voice and then I reach in and grab. If they don't move they get shoved aside because I am quite a big lady. Same with kids and trolleys. I just boot them aside.

You can't win sometimes. One person might huff if you excuse yourself and reach for the butter while they're chatting with someone across the aisle, but the day you choose to wait for them to move will be the one time you encounter someone who berates you for not speaking up, because 'you could have just asked'.
I tend to go at quieter times, and most of the rudeness is at the checkouts.

Good grief! I hope you are joking.

My son has to do this because the most unexpected stuff says "may contain nuts"

I do notice a difference in different supermarkets.

Round my area at least, in Aldi, people aren't overtly rude in terms of them not pushing, being hostile or ridiculously obstructive. However, they tend to be a bit lacking in awareness of their surroundings. So leaving trolleys in the way, not noticing someone is waiting to get where they are blocking the way for. When they suddenly notice something, they usually try to be helpful and move or apologise. Can have noisy children running around at times.

Asda - outright hostility and overt rudeness. People being really inconsiderate and anti social. Very feral children. Often the adults too. Avoid if possible, but if you have to go in, you have to brace yourself or go after 9pm

Waitrose - like visiting a library. No one ever crowds you, people wait patiently, the children are all sweet and well behaved, having civilised conversations with their parents about the shopping choices or things they will cook. I coincidentally visited at the time the baked goods were being reduced yesterday evening. This attracted several people who did a comical slow motion, polite, remain at arms length from other each other while clutching tongs, strategic raid of the reduced goods. Waiting politely to ensure they aren't grabbing something someone else might go for. It honestly restored my faith that actually people are still polite and considerate.

But every week? I kid you not she would pick up the same tin in the same supermarket every single week. Thankfully I had a job so could duck out if going most of the time

I must admit, I rarely encounter this type of behaviour. Maybe it's more of a city thing (or as Onlythis.. says, a supermarket thing)

I wish I had a local Waitrose.😧