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Can you contact child protective services if a mother leaves her child stranded in front of her house at night?

56 replies

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 17:03

I don't mind children playing in the street, but this woman's kids scream too much. You get home from work and have to listen to these children screaming until about 10 pm, every day. It's exhausting, and I think this woman doesn't like taking care of her children because she leaves these 6-year-olds screaming in the street and goes far away or inside the house

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BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:24

BerryTwister · 04/10/2026 17:50

I assume you’re in America OP, as that’s where they have “child protective services”, so it’s hard for people on a UK site to advise on thresholds for reporting.

I didn't know it was a British site; can you recommend a similar site, but an American one?

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Lucyintheskywithnoidea · 04/10/2026 20:24

@BeLilacDog Are you worried about them or are they just annoying you?

Bigfattwat · 04/10/2026 20:25

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:24

I didn't know it was a British site; can you recommend a similar site, but an American one?

I would try google if I was you.

Lucyintheskywithnoidea · 04/10/2026 20:26

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:24

I didn't know it was a British site; can you recommend a similar site, but an American one?

Most posters are in the uk but people post from all over the world.
In the uk children wouldn’t play out that late but maybe they do in some places?

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:29

Batties · 04/10/2026 17:43

Do you mean they are physically prevented from entering their home? Also, child protective services doesn’t exist in the U.K.

It’s not that she locks them out; as soon as they get home from school, she leaves them outside—right in the middle of the street—and goes into her house alone or to a neighbor's place

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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 04/10/2026 20:29

Are you actually concerned for the children's welfare, or are you just pissed off about the noise? If you are concerned that they are not safe then obviously report it.

MCF86 · 04/10/2026 20:29

"In Brazil, children generally go to bed later—often around 10:00 PM for toddlers and 9:00 PM to 10:00 PM for older school-aged children—which is roughly two hours later than averages seen in many high-income Western countries"

Google thinks you're a grumpy neighbour OP.

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:31

Lucyintheskywithnoidea · 04/10/2026 20:26

Most posters are in the uk but people post from all over the world.
In the uk children wouldn’t play out that late but maybe they do in some places?

So, if children acted like that in England, can you call the police or something, or do you just have to accept it?

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TY78910 · 04/10/2026 20:45

What part of your OP suggests they are stranded? Are they screaming to get back in the house and she’s not letting them, or are they screaming because they’re out playing? If the latter then no, you can’t report her. Why don’t you just have a conversation like an adult?

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:49

TY78910 · 04/10/2026 20:45

What part of your OP suggests they are stranded? Are they screaming to get back in the house and she’s not letting them, or are they screaming because they’re out playing? If the latter then no, you can’t report her. Why don’t you just have a conversation like an adult?

shouting all along the street, coming right in front of our houses and shouting—and she either stays inside or goes out and leaves them out on the street

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BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:49

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 04/10/2026 20:29

Are you actually concerned for the children's welfare, or are you just pissed off about the noise? If you are concerned that they are not safe then obviously report it.

The two, one of my neighbours talk about this too

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Livpool · 04/10/2026 20:51

You can report, and see what, if anything, comes of it.

BeigeCardiganOfDoom · 04/10/2026 21:04

You posted this on Reddit a couple of days ago. Very odd.

seahorsessky · 04/10/2026 21:13

Crunchymum · 04/10/2026 17:05

Child protective services? Where do you live?

If OP's not a parent, they'll probably be thinking of American terms maybe, as this is used on a lot of programmes that a lot of us watch.
And yes OP, you should report if a child is being neglected/likely to run into danger. You can do so anonymously. You'd feel awful if something happened to them.

Blackandyellow65 · 05/10/2026 00:11

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:31

So, if children acted like that in England, can you call the police or something, or do you just have to accept it?

You could call the police for a welfare check. If the children’s house and living conditions are fine, they are fed and adequately clothed and going to school etc, nothing will be done. At most you have a noise disturbance complaint, but it’s my understanding that it’s not taken seriously unless the noise persists after 11pm. But as pp said, most people on here won’t have a clue on Brazilian laws

Hoardasurass · 05/10/2026 00:18

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:19

They are quite far from the house; they are walking all along the street

How many kids is she leaving out to play and how old are they all (i know you said one was 6 but not the age of the others)

Hoardasurass · 05/10/2026 00:23

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:31

So, if children acted like that in England, can you call the police or something, or do you just have to accept it?

Well you could call the police here but they'd laugh at you and remind you that wasting police time is a crime
Kids playing even loudly between the hours of 7 am and 11pm is considered normal everyday noise that even the council wouldn't deal with in the uk
So yes you'd be expected to suck it up

MsPrufrockk · 05/10/2026 10:02

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:31

So, if children acted like that in England, can you call the police or something, or do you just have to accept it?

Surely it's irrelevant because you're not in England?

BananaWhip · 05/10/2026 10:05

In the UK yes, but in Brazil no idea

LittlePetitePsychopath · 05/10/2026 10:07

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:49

shouting all along the street, coming right in front of our houses and shouting—and she either stays inside or goes out and leaves them out on the street

That doesn't really answer the question.

Are they shouting for attention/to get back in, or are they shouting as they play games?

I mean I'd be annoyed at 10pm here because I live in England and it's pretty unheard of for any kids to be out at night here; but I spend half my year in Spain and it'd be a lot more normal there. I'd guess Brazil may be similar?

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · 05/10/2026 10:10

OP…the children are not ‘stranded’. They are playing outside in the street, in their own neighbourhood. Get a grip!

LateNightOne · 05/10/2026 10:11

GardenCovent · 04/10/2026 17:22

Sorry, I read it wrong, as in leaving a 6 year old outside screaming to get in until 10pm

I would call the police in that situation.

Stairsandbiscuits · 05/10/2026 10:14

In the UK the threshold for intervention by social services is that a child is at risk of significant harm. It must be the parents' actions, or lack of actions that place the child at risk. What is the threshold in Brazil. You can probably google it.

LateNightOne · 05/10/2026 10:14

BeLilacDog · 04/10/2026 20:16

In Brazil, it's called the Conselho Tutelar (Guardianship Council)—a place where you report child abuse or neglect

Best answer ask local for advice. Life is pretty different in UK than Brazil.

User3353821614 · 05/10/2026 10:17

Why don’t you call CP anyway and get some advice? Better to raise it than not if you are concerned.