AIBU to buy second-hand toys as birthday presents for my daughter?

[Sadian]

I have purchased a variety of toys for my daughter for her birthday second hand- it was £45 for 5 of them - think Disney etc
She's also got a few new toys too
Main reasoning for buying second hand is environmental rather than financial but still, the toys would have been £150+ new
I was talking to my mother and told her I'd got sets off vinted
She was outraged. Said new toys are 2 for 20 in B&M, no excuse for buying second hand as a present. Also thought I'd vastly overpaid and no second hand toy should go for more than a few pounds
So there you go- am I a total cheapskate?

It depends on your budget and on the toy. Some collectible toys that my nephews want are no longer available new! They are more than happy with secondhand toys from their parents if it's what they like and want. They have expensive tastes!
I've bought my baby daughter some lovely toys and clothing items secondhand from various charity shops, including big name designer clothing (Fendi, Dolce & Gabanna) Would she also disapprove of that? 🤣
I also have some brand new gifts for baby girl ready for Christmas.
Sounds like your mother is a bit of a snob without a clue. Maybe just don't tell her next time!

Depends what I was in got my DN something 2nd hand on vinted because I couldn't get it in a shop and shed love it, and it was a bargain

I think if its for your kid and youre happy with condition and clean them its fine

And? What’s your point?

You don’t wrap big presents and I do. Simple.

i do buy second hand….just not as presents.

and especially not to take to a party.

my daughter got given a grubby charity shop handbag.

I took out the half sucked polo, washed it and took it straight back to the charity shop.

Your mum is only concerned with her own sense of pride in buying new toys. Two for £20 in B&M is worthless if the toys are not what your child would like.

Did your mum grow up relatively poor? Some people have a horror of second hand items as they associate pre-loved stuff with the shame of poverty.

I only buy second hand - haven't bought anything new for myself for years. I also buy vinyl records for one DD and household items / cookbooks for another DD, including a gorgeous mid century West German espresso set from etsy a few Christmases ago.

Second hand toys, clothes, bags, footwear, and household goods are good for the environment, and it's a very good thing to teach your child that oldies can be goodies. Shiny and new isn't all that.

Personally I have. My husband slways gets nice good quality shirts and tee shirts from the lovely charity shops in our area at Christmas. I have bought toys and clothes for the kids too. It makes me feel smug to snap something really good at a fraction of the price. And the environmental cost!

Every mum i know including me do this. Don't understand why it's anything you think about...it's good for the environment and better still for someone on a budget.

I can remember my stepdad spending most of Xmas eve constructing a large garage set for my youngest brother so he never did see it in the box. I think he'd have been more pissed off waiting a couple of hours on Xmas day for it to be built

I almost always buy second hand because it’s cheaper for (often) better quality things. Growing up my parents didn’t have much money and we were always getting second hand stuff so I don’t think this is a class thing or an old person thing. More like a sensible person thing.

Mine are teenagers now and we did this when they were little and we still do this. We have the funds, we go on several holidays a year and this is why! Once a toy is out of the pack it’s no different - you get better toys, books, for less. Why just get them loads to open with no real value - great if the toys they want are 2 for £20 but the classic toys that stand the test of time tend not to be. Whilst they are growing and changing their minds all the time why not. We also sell them on again once they’ve outgrown them. Teaches children not to waste money. They look ok Vinted themselves now.

Of course YANBU.

It’s DD’s birthday next month. I’ve already ordered her a few bits and bobs from Vinted. It means she’ll have lots of exciting things to open without having to buy loads of cheap plastic shite that won’t last 5 minutes.

I used to volunteer in a Charity Shop. We had some amazing toys brought in that looked nearly new.
I'd say go for it !

I definitely would not.

Buying all new rather than second hand is most definitely not an old people thing. My sons are now 30s & 40s. Bought some new but also bought toys etc from charity shops and jumble sales. When v young I stuck to quality wooden learning toys, family brand names eg matchbox cars, box of about 30 good sized plastic animals/dinosaurs, many books, & lots of family games. When older I got secondhand computer/video games etc Only bought in good condition and donated many back to charities. Those I kept my grandchildren now play with.

We enjoyed a six figure salary so didn

What if that's all the person giving you the gift could afford?
Would you refuse to take it?