to be getting a bit fed up with dh.

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I love him dearly and he is fab but I have been very tired and not very well for a few weeks now as well as working some nights so i have been collapsing in bed the minute he gets in the oor at 6.30 and not getting up agin until the next morning.

Anyway dh is great and he has been putting dd's to bed but he is always grumping and shouting at them and if I say anything he says it is because he is tired and doing everything atm.
He is doing a lot don't get me wrong but the girls go to bed at 7, he is putting them in their pj's readig them stories and putting them to bed,then getting up and giving them a bowl of cereal each.
Not that i am saying that isn't enough because he is at work all day but it is not everything, how does he think his clothes get from the basket to back in his drawers, how has dd2 got clean dry nappies to wear, how doeas the house look okay and how have the chikldren been fed if he does everything.
He is perfectly entitled to be tired but it is annoying me that anytime I have to give up the slighest bit if the childcare he is so tired that he grumps at everyone all day long.
Anyway rant over sorry.

Corr the same here, dh works nights, I get the kids up and take them to breakfast club, he has to pick them up and I am home by 4, so the house is clean and the dinner is cooked before I go to work. he only has to walk around the corner to pick them up and sit with them for 3/4 hour I do everything else. You would think I was asking him to climb Mount Kilamanjaro every day.

mine too sometimes, I blame their mothers

he's upstairs giving dcs their bath after doing fark all today as he is on nights tonight and I'll get a huffy dh till he goes to work

don't even get me started on what I have to do the rest of the week - along with being 36wks pregnant

we have fairies in our house! i never do anything yet there is food in the house, niether of the dds look starved, both are clean and dressed curtesy of the fairies im sure of it! clothes get up off the bedroom floor and walk themselves into the washer then the cat switches it on for them! my cat is very clever you know! the dog hoovers and dusts too!!!

I think having kids should be a joint responsibility regardless of who's working and who isn't, so each parent should share tasks where the kids are concerned. If stay at home mum's actually got paid for the work we do we'd be loaded! The hourly rates for cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing, childcare etc. would probably beat what our DH's earn in the office!! (grin).

Some dads have it sooooo easy when it comes to child care, and I think it is all men who think the housework fairy puts the washing away.

I am lucky.
DH and I are seperated (thats not the lucky bit) but he see's out sons every day, takes them to beavers,/ scouts/ youth club, he helps out all the time (I do still go round and do his Ironing though ) takes two people to make a baby.

I get 'its all right for you, you don't have to feel the stress of the kids before you go to work, you just have to get them fed and dressed before you go, I have to make sure I am up in time to pick them up' hmm, men they are all selfish imo

Must defend the fellas here...
we alternate mornings getting up with dd
we alternate doing bath and storytime with dd
I cook
He does washing up

He stayed up every night with dd when she was a baby, so I could sleep, I would get up with her in the morning, he would get a bit of sleep and then go to work in the afternoon (shift worker).

He is doing his share, no more than that.

But dare I say it... if you give them the impression that they can do the bare minimum and you will sigh and roll your eyes and then do everything else for him, then that's what they'll do.