AIBU to pull my child out of nursery after settling in sessions?

[Quirkypenguin]

I went for 2 settling in sessions at a nursery and have decided that I don’t think it’s the right place for our child my partner is now annoyed at me, am I just been an overprotective parent?

I stayed for one hour and then for the last hour I left and sat in reception for about 10 minutes, I then went round the corner to grab a coffee as a member of staff came out and assured me my child hadn’t even noticed I’d left and wasn’t upset.

When I returned there was a notice on the door saying they had a case of hand foot and mouth in her room which hadn’t been there an hour before, then when I walked in my child was inconsolable crying clinging to her key worker, she was bright red and looked absolutely shattered- she then informed me they couldn’t find her dummy (it was in my bag which was completely my fault) and had been crying on and off for 30-40 minutes, I was abit confused why they hadn’t rang me as I could of brought it back to see if it settled her, the outdoor area had rabbit droppings and rabbit burrows/ large holes that I witnessed several children fall down, a little boy fell forwards on a bike face first and wasn’t noticed for some time and they claimed a ratio of 3 children to 1 staff but was more like 6 kids to 1. Her key worker also called her the wrong name 4 times while I was there, my child has allergies and I was not reassured they may get children mixed up.

Her key worker said to not let it put me off that she didn’t settle and then asked if she’s doing a full day Monday to which I said yes as I am at work, she basically implied I might have to come get her early but I travel 40 minutes for work so I can’t be there very quickly which makes me incredibly uneasy

It seems they had too many children to staff and incredibly stretched. I then returned home to find her coat gone from her bag.

Am I being unreasonable to not send her Monday and find elsewhere?

There are several concerning things you mention. The garden issue is a huge health and safety problem. For that alone I would be reporting it to the council/Ofsted. The ratio is also a big concern, especially for the ages involved.

I worked in early education for 20 years, that nursery does not sound like a safe place.

This is standard private nursery behaviour.

Numerous children to one young, unqualified, bored member of staff.

Babies crying all day, mix ups with food.

This is the reality of nursery which is why I took an evening job so I won't put my son in until he's over 3 and I'll be available daytimes whenever to collect him. Hes always either in ny care or my husbands. I take him to toddler groups for socialisation and the kids are absolutely feral it has absolutely validated my decision to wait for nursery. Nurseries are like Lord of the flies and rampant with infectious disease. It is what it is. I'm also putting him in a nursery thats small and just for ages 3 to 5. I don't want staff distracted by babies. In your position I would choose grandparents or a childminder who takes just afew kids, nursery as a last resort.