to have asked dh to accompany me to a children's party this afternoon?

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to be fair to him, he hasnt complained. but he is a local councillor and therefore out quite a lot. that is fine as it is something we agreed would fulfill him as a person etc. but when they start spilling over into local party 'do's on a sunday lunchtime/ afternoon and eating into family time i start to resent it. anyway today was one of those dos but dd1 had been asked to a birthday party at 3pm. i had made it clear i resented dh going along to said do and missing family roast etc but he went anyway. i rang him when he was there and asked whether he would be willing to come along to the party as dds are 1 and 2 and quite a handful on my own - and i didnt know anyone else that would be there anyway. he came. it was all fine. but i want to know if i should be feeling guilty for pulling him away from his bash- he was there from 12.30-3pm anyway.... views anyone?

he would have done it for the peace and quiet, just to stop you from moaning. my dh won't go to any event where there are other kids there that aren't his own.he thinks its a waste of time and he doesn't want to spend time being around other people's kids that he doesn't know very well. well done you for convincing your dh to go with you. it's more than what I would hve managed!!

considering your youngest are very young in age you needed him to help out, so I don't think YABU.

I don't think you should feel guilty. DDs are his children too, therefore no reason why he should not help with looking after them, especially on a weekend.

YANBU. sometimes i even make dh take the dcs to a party on his own. all three of them. inc the sn one. he works a lot away so he makes up for it when he's here.
IABU!

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Just to be clear . . . you had been invited to this party? Cos if not, then YABU.

yes we had all been invited to the party!!! would be a bit off to all turn up to one we hadnt been invited to!