Best friend for more than 25 years has blocked me

[CarmineInWonderland]

Just seeing what you guys think.

My best friend I knew was the most sincere, kind, listening ear who I knew in school. I defended her from time to time.

I am somewhat hurt...I tried to message/call my (best) friend but I only found out she has blocked me for no reason and she has not said to me that she wants to close our friendship...but kinda want to move on... But the thought of it plays in the back of my mind... It's been nearly 3 months now.

Ever since she met her husband she is always all about him...

I am the only one who wants to keep the friendship going all these years but it's looking like she doesn't care. I have to physically drive out of my way to get to her if I was still communicating to her.

She is always on social media at the time I followed her. I only check if I need to.

So we are:

• both married, we have a family and live in different towns now.

• I have a degree and higher education than her.

• she is a SAHM due to her mental health, she has an only child and I work my backside to help to support the family.

• not sure what has influenced her to do so but I feel it's very cowardly of her and she has not given me a birthday gift this year and I have. 2 months after I messaged her I found out I was then blocked after a conversation after her birthday checking on how she is.

Part of me feel like I was used and I sense a bit of jealousy .

Should I let it be and move on or should I physically knock on her door and (bother her and her family to ask for a closure? )

What would you guys do in my situation?
Would you knock on the door (rough area?)

What do you think I should do if I ever was to be "unblocked"

Thanks

Struggling to see revelance of this OP - you’re not coming across as someone Id class as a BBF

• I have a degree and higher education than her.
• she is a SAHM due to her mental health, she has an only child and I work my backside to help to support the family.

It will hurt but be of the mindset that it is her issue not yours and sometimes friends are in your life for a reason and then that season ends. I doubt from what you have said that you will ever find out the reason so it’s prob best to draw a line and move on otherwise you will end up torturing yourself.

Maybe your superiority over your education and career were obvious to her.

Yes, she probably feels you are judging her.

I wouldn't do anything.
Move on.

If you were to be unblocked then you need to see her as someone equal to you, and make sure you behave that way.

Sorry OP but it kind of seems like you look down on her (Saying she's a SAHM because of mental health and you work your backside off to support the family, saying she lives in a rough area, saying you have a degree and higher education as none of that should be relevant) but if your attitude regarding her comes across so badly in this post imagine how you've come across to her. Yanbu for being hurt, losing a friend is hurtful especially when they've ghosted you but I can kind of see why she's done it.

Did you want to take her on a boozy slutty weekend when she preferred a spa?

Yeah, I can instantly see why she’s decided to end the friendship! Who needs enemies with friends like you!

You sound so judgy! I have never heard anyone talk about a best friend like that!

I can absolutely see why....

You don't sound like you like her very much. So why do you care. I'd let it go.

Sounds as though you’re judging and looking down on her .
friends don’t do that .

Your OP is so badly written. Do you help support her family financially?

I'm starting to see a pattern with these 'I don't know what I've done wrong' posts. It's always a weirdly narcissistic person who's been rightly cut off by someone, hoping strangers on the internet will validate their delusional perception of self.

I'd do some reflecting on what kind of person you actually are.

My best friend I knew was the most sincere, kind, listening ear who I knew in school. I defended her from time to time.

This is your answer. She's done listening to you all the time and knows that's all she is to you, when you only "defended her" from time to time - by your own admission, so the truth is probably worse.

You're coming across as quite odd and unpleasant about her, OP. Also, if you say you were the only one pursuing the friendship for years, it sounds as if she was trying to gently wind things down over a long period, but you weren't listening.

Maybe she got sick of you blabbering on about your degree and working soooo hard to support your family. Superiority complex much.

Your contempt for her is so obvious. I imagine she just can’t handle you anymore.

If she has mental health issues perhaps atm contact with you is detrimental to her mental health?
I've kept in quite regular contact until recently with someone I met at school. When I was depressed last year I didn't block her but I just didn't reply to her because I found her constantly talking about her idyllic lifestyle really bad for my self esteem. I'm back in sporadic contact now im feeling better. Perhaps your friend has stuff going on in her life?

You don't sound like a kind friend here

I agree with everyone else. In your OP you’ve chosen to emphasise the differences between you and what you clearly see as her deficits. If all we have to do is read your OP to get an immediate Indication of your sense of superiority you can bet she has picked up on it and probably a long time ago.

You dont seem to like her I expect she noticed.

I picked up that vibe too. 😬