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To be pretty p'eed of with dp's sodding family (long)

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wrinklytum · 29/06/2008 14:59

DP has been poorly for a while.Today he was home for a day on "leave" from hospital.He is not well and I have been persuading him to get back in and his temp is sky high and he is vomiting.He has been yelling at me not to nag.He will not listen

In between all this I have got ds (4) and dd (2) with sn who needs pretty constant supervision,to get up,breakfast,dress.etc etc

Then I have the usual chores to do hoovering,cooking,cleaning.

So I wonder out loud if dps brother would mind if I rang them and asked if they would pick up a few bits for me in Tesco when they do their weekly shop.So dp mentions this to MIL who jumps in and says "Oh i'll get it if I'll leave @ anD @ (2 nephews 5 and 7) at yours"as she has the grandchildren on a Sunday.I inwardly groan as I know that despite doing a list MIL will not get what I want.Also much as I love my nephews I can really do without 4 kids to look after.So I dutifully do the list (There is no arguing with MIL) asking for Tesco value everything (We are on a budget cos of dps illness).SO the kids are dropped off ("for half an hour").Two and a half hours later during which time I have fed and watered,as no one said if they needed dinner or not, and entertained the children making tents they return,and sure enough there are branded goods,non bio wash powder when I asked for bio,tins of beans when I ask for tomatoes.(I am sure she does it on purpose).Now I KNOW she is nice to do the shopping but when she gets back she asks me to come and check if shes got everytrhing and when I say not unreasonably"I can't at the moment,I'm feeding @ but I will in a minute,thanks" (was feeding the children,had dd on lap she still neeeds help) she went off in huff,without a word.I wish I had never opened my mouth.So AIBU??I feel like crying.She makes it abundantly clear I am not doing a good enough job for her son,I am sick of it,all.I want to go and scream and cry and rant.Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

OP posts:
cornsilk · 29/06/2008 15:01

get a delivery next time!

wrinklytum · 29/06/2008 15:05

LOL!I wouldn't have had the time,earlier,plus I think they charge for delivery we are quite skint.I only needed a few items.

OP posts:
TheProvincialLady · 29/06/2008 15:07

Not unreasonable at all. It's not helping you to palm off two children on you when you are already stressed. Though you should have been more assertive and said no thanks TBH - especially as she went into a stupid huff anyway.

AlistairSim · 29/06/2008 15:21

Silly post, of course YANBU!

1066andallthat · 29/06/2008 16:10

Howl away - you really deserve it. This wasn't being helpful at all; she used you as a free babysitter.

It sounds very hard being pulled in so many ways. Is theren't anyone else local - a kind neighbour, who would happily muck in, pick up your bits when they go for the newspaper?

It is when things are the hardest, you learn who you can really lean on, just when you don't need the extra stress. Don't "use" her again - a gentle, "Thanks, but no."

cory · 29/06/2008 17:08

Oh poor hun! Hope your dp feels better soon.

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