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AIBU to be so sick of tradespeople/ cleaners asking for cash in hand?

503 replies

Endlesspasswords · 03/09/2026 06:21

So my cleaner charges £21/hour cash, but just said she wants more if I pay by bank transfer, because bank transfer means she can’t dodge declaring it. As if paying by transfer (i.e. traceably) is some kind of favour/ privilege I should pay extra for.

Same with some work I got a quote for- it’s the attitude that if I don’t want to pay in cash, I’m the one ‘hurting’ their bank balance or being awkward.

I’m freelance B2B myself. No sick pay, no employer pension contributions, no paid holiday, I know exactly what it’s like to carry your own tax and NI. But I still pay tax on every invoice, because that’s the deal.

I’m so sick with the fact that self-employed people in one sector get to treat tax as optional while others pay for their healthcare, schools etc.

and yes, I’m getting a new cleaner.

OP posts:
dreamingofgoodhair · 03/09/2026 15:13

EasternStandard · 03/09/2026 15:06

Reporting a low paid cleaner is just going to wreck stuff for them and cause huge stress, not much else.

£21 an hour is not low paid. That’s over £40k gross a year full time. Why should she not pay tax ?

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:15

dreamingofgoodhair · 03/09/2026 15:13

£21 an hour is not low paid. That’s over £40k gross a year full time. Why should she not pay tax ?

Yes, but the average self employed domestic cleaner is not working anything like full time. Why can’t they be paid cash? There are numerous legitimate reasons why people prefer cash - read the thread.

FirmSnake · 03/09/2026 15:16

EasternStandard · 03/09/2026 15:08

Do you know anyone who cleans for a living?

What difference does that make?
As long as they're paying their taxes and keeping their books they'll be fine. If they're not, then no sympathy from me.

EasternStandard · 03/09/2026 15:17

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:10

Basically anyone who is paid in cash is now a suspect and should be reported. What a society we’ve become.

Ik maybe it’s just this thread, but those posts are full on.

dreamingofgoodhair · 03/09/2026 15:17

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 13:22

I think it’s clear you have no idea what you’re talking about given you’re suggesting cleaners make over £40k a year. It’s embarrassing.

£21 an hour x 37.5 (full time) is £40,900 a year.

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:18

dreamingofgoodhair · 03/09/2026 15:17

£21 an hour x 37.5 (full time) is £40,900 a year.

How many domestic self-employed cleaners do you know who manage to work 37.5hrs? Come on, use some common sense.

dingodan · 03/09/2026 15:22

I know lots of people who are very comfortable paying cash in hand.

Summerhillsquare · 03/09/2026 15:23

Sartre · 03/09/2026 06:49

Let’s not also forget the many men who do it to dodge child maintenance… It’s dodgy, you’re right.

Shamefully, I had not thought of that. Will double down on my stance, thank you for stating it.

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:30

Summerhillsquare · 03/09/2026 15:23

Shamefully, I had not thought of that. Will double down on my stance, thank you for stating it.

And those women who do it to protect their money from financially controlling partners. Screw them I guess.

Loveofeclairs · 03/09/2026 15:32

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:18

How many domestic self-employed cleaners do you know who manage to work 37.5hrs? Come on, use some common sense.

Even if they work 80% of the time, it’s still over £32k. So why shouldn’t they pay tax?

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:35

Loveofeclairs · 03/09/2026 15:32

Even if they work 80% of the time, it’s still over £32k. So why shouldn’t they pay tax?

And how do you know they’re not paying tax? I can’t be bother to repeat all of the myriad reasons why some people prefer cash.

Flickitspinittwistitbopit · 03/09/2026 15:37

WalkingWavy · 03/09/2026 07:18

Yes, personal experience. I use Royal Bank of Scotland. The first 2 years of business bank were free but they charge after that. As a small business I also get charged for change from the bank (fair enough) which is why I prefer card payments.

This is awful - I have had a business account with monzo for 4 years and never been charged; do check them out!

FirmSnake · 03/09/2026 15:37

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:30

And those women who do it to protect their money from financially controlling partners. Screw them I guess.

Because controlling partners are famously unable to find or demand cash...
What about all the women on PAYE who cant afford to leave their abusive partners because they have to pay tax? Screw them i guess.

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:40

FirmSnake · 03/09/2026 15:37

Because controlling partners are famously unable to find or demand cash...
What about all the women on PAYE who cant afford to leave their abusive partners because they have to pay tax? Screw them i guess.

I think that’s the best “what aboutery” I’ve seen in months 😆

Flickitspinittwistitbopit · 03/09/2026 15:40

Cosyblankets · 03/09/2026 08:45

Which account is this? My hsbc account charges for every transaction other than a bank transfer

Monzo! Just double checked in case I've been paying all these years 😆 but nope - free!

HorseandHeron · 03/09/2026 15:42

100% agree with you. I am freelance too. Everything goes through the books. Tax paid on everything. I bet these people still want roads fit to drive down, schools fit to educate their children and NHS free on tap from birth to death. Just want other workers to fund it.

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 03/09/2026 15:45

One of those few humour moments in all the ridiculousness that was Covid was the fact furlough was paid on taxed income…

Badbadbunny · 03/09/2026 15:50

KoiTetra · 03/09/2026 15:11

To be fair, that doesn't always mean a tax dodge.

The card fees can be a killer. My hair dressers will take card but prefer bank transfer or cash. This is 100% to save the card fees.

Card fees can be very cheap if people shop around.

BermudaRhombus · 03/09/2026 15:51

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 03/09/2026 15:45

One of those few humour moments in all the ridiculousness that was Covid was the fact furlough was paid on taxed income…

And yet the government still managed to lose £10.9 billion of our money to fraudsters. All those damn cleaners….

Badbadbunny · 03/09/2026 15:52

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 03/09/2026 15:45

One of those few humour moments in all the ridiculousness that was Covid was the fact furlough was paid on taxed income…

But all the council grants and the bounce back loans weren't contingent on declared income. The whole support was an utter farce.

Two2TooAlsoToToward · 03/09/2026 16:03

Sartre · 03/09/2026 06:49

Let’s not also forget the many men who do it to dodge child maintenance… It’s dodgy, you’re right.

This.

C8H10N4O2 · 03/09/2026 16:12

dreamingofgoodhair · 03/09/2026 15:13

£21 an hour is not low paid. That’s over £40k gross a year full time. Why should she not pay tax ?

Another poster who doesn’t understand the difference between hourly pay and hourly business service charges.

Gibstub · 03/09/2026 16:13

Burred · 03/09/2026 12:18

As pp have mentioned, it's demonstrably unfair to assume that anyone asking for cash is trying to dodge tax/CMS/whatever.

When people do it to avoid paying, it's wrong, unlawful and should not be supported.

However, it's wrong to say that everyone who wants to be paid in cash is up to something nefarious. Both me and DH are self-employed. My work is always paid by bank transfer. Around 80% of DH's work is paid the same way. However, every, say, 1 in 5 jobs, he asks if cash is an option as we sometimes use it for paying farm services//other trades/tips/similar. It can still be handy to have a bit of cash!

Let's not tar all self-employed people with this.

I'm not saying everyone self employed is tax dodging. Also, Bank Transfer is not cash in hand by any means. But any business such as hairdressing, podiatry in etc that takes cash only in this day and age is certainly behind the times.

Two2TooAlsoToToward · 03/09/2026 16:14

CarrieOakie · 03/09/2026 07:06

I've heard people make the arguement that they don't use public services at all so don't see why they should pay tax

anyone would be hard pressed not to use pavements, street lights, roads, or rubbish collections

Edited

And did they not ever go to school? Or visit a GP?

seahorsessky · 03/09/2026 16:20

Keeping cash going can be very helpful. Since banks are (nearly all) shut, a lot of people prefer to use cash to avoid scams, and there's a lot of people who find they budget better when they literally hold their cash. When you give your kids money to buy things, or pick up your take out, cash is better.
And when the shop had a problem and could only take cash, it was funny how my anti cash friends were so grateful I could help them out.

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