To ask people to think before they post

[Grumpynan]

After a very upsetting night and morning I am home again, having a cup of tea and scrolling facebook. On my local area page someone has posted a video of police activity taking place in the field across from their house. Yes it looks exciting it’s 11.30om and dark, there are 3 police cars, there’s shouting and a taser is heard, lots of crying and a clear shout of “the knife is dropped, he’s down” then silence then ‘where’s the ambulance “

at this point she does have the sense to stop recording, but she’s posted it, I asked for it to be removed and she posted it again 3 times !

the reason I’m upset, the reason I’m sicken that’s it’s there, and I have seen something I really didn’t want to.

that knife welding thug, was my 16year old godson, the person he wanted to hurt was himself, he called the police and told them he had cut himself, they responded. They tapered because he wouldn’t let go of the knife he didn’t want to die alone. Of course the shock made him drop it. But the damage was done.

my darling, so sweet, so loving but so troubled godson didn’t make it,

that recording of his cry will for ever haunt me.

what does she gain from posting it, ok maybe she doesn’t know the why the wherefore, she’s just relishing in the drama.

please people, please think before you post things like this,

I assume she doesn’t want to upset them even further by mentioning it. Online communities have their uses.

How strange that you think she may be incapable of doing both of those things?

Yes. Not something for Facebook. Or for Mumsnet.

I think OP is entitled to reach out here if she wishes.

Are you suggesting that the OP shouldn’t be posting about it here? Or was it just poorly worded?

That is dreadful. I am so sorry for your loss 💐

If these are the actual facts I don't think you should have shared all this on MN either.

Such gormless, gossipy thickos have always existed.
But they didn't have the internet to broadcast their thoughtless garbage to a wide audience.

Very sorry for your loss op.

Perhaps, then, a more sympathetic response might be: I’m so sorry for your loss OP. Perhaps you might want to ask MN to remove a few details that might be identifying?

Incredibly unsympathetic response to someone who’s clearly very shocked.

I’m sorry if I’ve upset people, I wanted to explain how much could be heard, I suppose if you don’t know the facts it sounds like the police brought down a knife welding thug ? Which is good ?.

the facts are different, and until you know all the facts you should think before making these things public.

hes parents encouraged me to post this, to make people aware that what you think you see isn’t the full story and to stop and think.

thank you for all the good wishes, I have passed them on to the family, they are with me now.

I think tbh we are all still in shock, maybe tomorrow we will think and feel different, it’s been a long day

Honestly dear OP I am upset thinking of your upset, and of your godson and his family.

As far as I personally am concerned (obviously I can’t speak for anyone else), anything that brings you the slightest comfort right now is a good thing.

Life can be very cruel and I’m so sorry you (all) are going through this.

I'm sorry for your loss OP, and for what you had to see on FB.

I'd message the woman directly. Not to ask her to take it down, but to explain herself. Why did she feel the need to post it, and how did she think it would affect people like yourself and his family?

Please don’t apologise my love you have nothing to be sorry for.. Let us hold you. I’m so sorry this has happened to you and people you love. Please do and say whatever brings you comfort. Thinking of you all.

Very sorry to you and his family, no one can understand what you are going through. The people that post these things for likes are sadly not going to listen to reason and keep doing it. The police have runs campaigns about having to race to houses unprepared with specialist officers when they see someone filming something to make sure they break the news first.

Yoi can post whatever you like here if it helps you and your family. Sorry people have been anything but supportive.

Please pass on our wishers to his family. We didn’t know about him, but now a lot more people knew he was a person who was loved

@Grumpynan 💐I'm so sorry.
This is one of the dark sides of social media and I don't know how its ever going to resolve itself, particularly as many people have become so desensitized to even basic consideration and just want their next "like".

So sorry, OP, this is dreadful and I totally agree with you. I know someone who found out her husband had killed himself in a public place, when she saw a FB post about the incident with his car in full view.

The awful incident with Perez Hilton - he who now desperately needs privacy but who has built his empire on celebrity gossip and being the first to get the scoop - might help bring an end to the awful “you heard it here first” culture.

This is utterly heartbreaking 😭
I’m so very sorry for your loss. 💐 He was only a child 😞
YANBU

I doubt she would care or have any conscience at all unfortunately.
Of course it would be difficult if the shoe were on the other foot and someone did this to somebody she loved.

I am so sorry for your loss and respect and
commend you for reaching out and asking people to think before they post.

So tragic! I don’t have access to any of this level of SM, but when things are covered on national and international news, my thoughts,
as are the thoughts of many, are those of sympathy and condolences for those lives
lost and the family members.

There is so much that we don’t need to see.

Ī am so sorry OP. This trend of filming everything and posting it on social media is just awful, no thought at all as to who it might upset.

So sorry for the loss of your lovely and vulnerable godson. I also think it’s commendable to speak out about this, you will reach a wide and varied audience of readers. You did this with the permission of family - unlike the person who shared the video. Please ignore anyone who is speaking negatively. Do whatever brings you and the family a measure of comfort at a time where you must feel very helpless.

Sending hugs to you all while you navigate this tragic and very sad loss 💐