Disagree. That’s lose-lose.
i have 3 DCs now finished at the large local comp. We live in rural Kent in the epicentre of ‘grammar school central’.
I’m glad they didn’t go to grammar school for a few reasons esp as they have experience of inner city London comps before moving here.
if they’d been to grammar round here: costs £££ in transport because free school transport under 16 is ONLY available if you are going over three miles away and to the nearest school. Grammars aren’t usually the nearest. Don’t underestimate the cost even to a well off family to get three kids to school at around £600 each per term. Poor kids can’t do that.
Getting a bus to school if you can walk - living near schools allows kids to do after school activities- in the arts and sports - so often missing for the curriculum.
Grammars have similar money to comps but they have to win on academics. They can’t afford to spend time on non academic stuff like music or arts, or soft skills the like of which private schools can lean into. This I know because our local ‘grammar that people move house for’ has virtually eliminated its highly regarded music department. All kids lose out if they don’t get a rounded education- mine would have been very unhappy that environment.
As for the comp lovely teachers, great and wider ranging facilities from technical to art and music and business. The big problem is that of course all the bright well off kids have been creamed off to the many Grammar schools, so if you are bright and motivated as mine were (mostly) you suffer low level disruption ALL the time from kids with no interest.
my last 18YO DC just left with the best A levels in the school to his preferred RG Uni and is chuffed, but up until GCSEs he found it very difficult to work in that mix of kids.
Worse still some of his bright friends have done ok enough for uni and some are very talented but lack of aspiration or education in their backgrounds has resulted in them not going on to realise their talents. It’s heartbreaking.
not an ideal world!!
also the comp they have just left has 300 less intake this year as we are now at the end of the 2000s baby boom. So they will now go downhill.