Help protect children from gaming harms.

Take our survey

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To call in sick to work when you’re sick

163 replies

Linzdashluna · 25/08/2026 10:40

Last week, I called in sick on Tuesday and Wednesday as I couldn’t get out of bed. I tried on the Wednesday, got up, had a shower with the intention of at least trying and seeing if I perked up, but had to keep getting into bed after each thing I did, I felt dreadful so called in again.

My colleague has Thursday and Fridays off so I didn’t see her again until yesterday and she was making digs at me for being off. Saying things like “I was so poorly last week, but I came in because you just have to get on with it” and “I never have time off because I don’t think it’s fair to the team” I said if she was so ill she should have also called in. She said “no, my mum always said if you can walk, you can work” I ignored her but this morning she’s saying stuff again. She won’t stop complaining about how ill she feels but I don’t know what to say because she won’t call in sick so if you’re deciding to get on with it, do that then and stop moaning about it. She said “last week was awful when you were off because I was so unwell and had to do your work as well. I just think there’s people out there who have it worse” what kind of a take is this??? Are there other people out there who actually think like this? We have sick days and sick pay for a reason. If you’re not well enough to work, use them. I don’t understand the problem

OP posts:
Sandalsandbreadsticks · 26/08/2026 15:23

They probably aren't doing that it's just her assumption

Sandalsandbreadsticks · 26/08/2026 15:24

dreamiesformolly · 26/08/2026 11:00

Well, if they're phoning in sick when genuinely not ill, their work ethic sucks and that's not OK at all. But it's not evidence that this is a widespread practice, it's anecdotal.

They probably aren't doing that, it's just her assumption

Sandalsandbreadsticks · 26/08/2026 15:25

If she could come in, do her job and pick up your slack, she clearly wasn't very ill. Some people don't get that ill and lack the empathy and imagination to realise that not everyone is like that

WhatNextImScared · 26/08/2026 15:28

Mumsntfan1 · 25/08/2026 11:48

I think it's odd that I haven't been ill enough (my definition) to call in sick in the last 30 years. Others are ill several times a year.

Edited

That’s brilliant good luck. Be happy!

Redragtoabull · Yesterday 23:05

Call in sick again, saying you've caught whatever Little Miss Contagious has carried into the office .. again!

Bigreddog25 · Today 06:32

Mumsntfan1 · 26/08/2026 07:50

Or that I don't call in sick when I fancy a week off.

I dont know what industry you work in, McDonald's with a lot of teenagers perhaps. But where I work, the average sick leave is nowhere near 20 days a year and people don't just take a week off for the fun of it. We do however have 2 additional 'duvet days' given to us for those days when you really just need a break, but aren't technically poorly. Some call it a mental health day.

I bet you hate that too 🤣 there's no virtue in suffering, you know?

NoWordForFluffy · Today 06:47

Valeyard15 · 25/08/2026 13:40

Isn't there a doctor's saying: "If you think you have the flu, then you have a cold. If you think you're dying, you have the flu."

This study shows that all of the people who claim that flu is always a severe illness are wrong:

https://www.consultant360.com/exclusives/majority-flu-infections-asymptomatic

But some MNers love to claim that you can't have flu unless you're bedridden. It's boring.

ETA: the study shows that a large majority of flu infections are asymptomatic.

Client Challenge

https://www.consultant360.com/exclusives/majority-flu-infections-asymptomatic

Redpaisley · Today 06:52

Linzdashluna · 25/08/2026 10:40

Last week, I called in sick on Tuesday and Wednesday as I couldn’t get out of bed. I tried on the Wednesday, got up, had a shower with the intention of at least trying and seeing if I perked up, but had to keep getting into bed after each thing I did, I felt dreadful so called in again.

My colleague has Thursday and Fridays off so I didn’t see her again until yesterday and she was making digs at me for being off. Saying things like “I was so poorly last week, but I came in because you just have to get on with it” and “I never have time off because I don’t think it’s fair to the team” I said if she was so ill she should have also called in. She said “no, my mum always said if you can walk, you can work” I ignored her but this morning she’s saying stuff again. She won’t stop complaining about how ill she feels but I don’t know what to say because she won’t call in sick so if you’re deciding to get on with it, do that then and stop moaning about it. She said “last week was awful when you were off because I was so unwell and had to do your work as well. I just think there’s people out there who have it worse” what kind of a take is this??? Are there other people out there who actually think like this? We have sick days and sick pay for a reason. If you’re not well enough to work, use them. I don’t understand the problem

That’s so unfair. This woman is bullying you. Tell her you don’t find her comments about sick leave appropriate given you had taken leave last week. Or just report her for bullying to HR. It’s horrible after recovering from illness now you need to deal with this stress. Her mother taught her about working but didn’t teach her to be nice to others.

Redpaisley · Today 06:55

SummerAsh · 26/08/2026 06:23

Ok Superwoman… well done, aren’t you amazing! Now why don’t you just FO… No one likes a self-righteous bragger.

She is not a superwoman, she is a corporate slave.

BusyMum47 · Today 09:23

@Linzdashluna

She’s a dick. Ask her if she wants a bloody medal for being so heroic & infecting the rest of the office with whatever she has.

Mumsntfan1 · Today 09:30

Bigreddog25 · Today 06:32

I dont know what industry you work in, McDonald's with a lot of teenagers perhaps. But where I work, the average sick leave is nowhere near 20 days a year and people don't just take a week off for the fun of it. We do however have 2 additional 'duvet days' given to us for those days when you really just need a break, but aren't technically poorly. Some call it a mental health day.

I bet you hate that too 🤣 there's no virtue in suffering, you know?

I work in financial services. Not in the UK, 20 days off sick a year is average here not just where I work.

Mumsntfan1 · Today 09:33

Bigreddog25 · Today 06:32

I dont know what industry you work in, McDonald's with a lot of teenagers perhaps. But where I work, the average sick leave is nowhere near 20 days a year and people don't just take a week off for the fun of it. We do however have 2 additional 'duvet days' given to us for those days when you really just need a break, but aren't technically poorly. Some call it a mental health day.

I bet you hate that too 🤣 there's no virtue in suffering, you know?

Isn't a 'duvet day' just a holiday? Or are you supposed to stay at home?

nbvxsefc · Today 09:41

professionalcommentreader · 25/08/2026 10:45

Tell her if sick colleagues didn’t insist on pushing through and acting like a martyr illnesses wouldn’t spread around.

I’ve worked with one of these knob heads and not only was he an absolute bore and incredibly irritating to work with he was also very work shy and always claiming to be busy while doing nothing.

He was forever going on about how he always soldiered on through illness and I replied exactly as you did, yeah you’re just here spreading it around to everyone else.

I left in 2019 but a colleague who was still working there told me he became the Covid police during lockdowns always loudly saying oh so and so is coughing they shouldn’t be in etc.

Basically colleagues like this is are a nightmare. OP you should ignore her and quietly have a word with your line manager as I bet she pisses everyone else off too.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page