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To think DP should want to spend time with us

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incognito1991 · 24/08/2026 17:50

Been with DP 5 years. Have one DD and one on the way, the way we both work means we only get one day a week off together. I took annual leave so now we have two days off together this week and two next week, which is a rare occurrence and I was looking forward to actually spending it together, I enjoy going out not fussy where even a trip to the shops or park but DP likes to stay in a lot. Anyway first day off today and he’s spent all day doing his own thing, out to see his friend this morning at 10, returned at 4 and is now out messing with his car (regular occurrence) he’ll probably be out there all evening. I think tomorrow he’s planning on doing more car stuff tomorrow. Aibu to expect to spend time together rather than feeling like a single parent yet again, we don’t even spend evenings together, he usually sits downstairs watching truck videos and I go upstairs to watch my programmes, can’t even remember the last time we went to bed together, I usually go around 11 where he’s more 12/1. Is our relationship just fizzled?

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incognito1991 · 24/08/2026 20:08

Oh no not desperate for his money at all, we earn the same amount I just work less days, we pay 50/50 everything

That doesn’t seem fair if you’re doing more of the childcare. You’re not married, you should be protecting your own finances more.

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