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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to ask if you own a sex toy?

100 replies

Isitwrongtoask · 22/08/2026 19:45

Do you?
Ive just turned 45 considering getting one.
Interested to know who has one

OP posts:
Jc2001 · 22/08/2026 21:49

Epoisses · 22/08/2026 19:47

I have DH

Is that what you call it?

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 22/08/2026 21:52

BeMellowAquaSquid · 22/08/2026 20:27

I have since I was about 18, now 46. Even more embarrassing is that I’ve given them all names over the years. Currently on Kevin, not sure where that came from 🤣

this should be an AIBU in itself - to call a sex toy 'kevin' :) .. sorry but that seems highly unreasonable to me :)

jumpintheline · 22/08/2026 21:52

yes two. Fabulous.

and a husband. Fair to middling.

BeMellowAquaSquid · 22/08/2026 21:53

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 22/08/2026 21:52

this should be an AIBU in itself - to call a sex toy 'kevin' :) .. sorry but that seems highly unreasonable to me :)

Oi you can’t mock Kev 🤣

Neverstopwondering · 22/08/2026 22:36

BeMellowAquaSquid · 22/08/2026 21:53

Oi you can’t mock Kev 🤣

Have you ever met a Kevin in real life and did it make you blush on the inside or burst out laughing or something?

We named mine so my husband can ask what I want or tell me what he wants to use. However avoided using proper names because I wouldn't be able to take bumping into someone with same name without giggling. So we have Mr Pink, Mr Black etc

PollyBell · 22/08/2026 22:38

Jc2001 · 22/08/2026 21:49

Is that what you call it?

Well it depends on my mind at the time, they have their uses

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 22/08/2026 22:40

@Isitwrongtoask , I would say I don’t own a single sex toy. My husband however has a few in his arsenal which he employs to devastatingly fabulous effect! 😋😉

GrannyTeapot · 22/08/2026 22:43

I’ve never been attracted to a lump of plastic.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 22/08/2026 22:45

Epoisses · 22/08/2026 19:47

I have DH

You think he doesn’t have a wank because he has you 😂

PollyBell · 22/08/2026 22:46

MyArtfulGreySloth · 22/08/2026 22:45

You think he doesn’t have a wank because he has you 😂

But what has that got to do with sex toys unless he uses one?

I dont have any because I have him

allgoodhere783 · 22/08/2026 22:48

Now i need to do a dodgey Internet search on "roses".... 😂

Wynter25 · 22/08/2026 22:48

Yes

whatwouldlilacerullodo · 22/08/2026 22:51

Some people love them. Others are not that bothered. I have few of them because I'm not a fan. If you want one, definitely buy it and try!

RaraRachael · 22/08/2026 22:57

Nope.
Never have and never will.

BeMellowAquaSquid · 22/08/2026 23:03

Neverstopwondering · 22/08/2026 22:36

Have you ever met a Kevin in real life and did it make you blush on the inside or burst out laughing or something?

We named mine so my husband can ask what I want or tell me what he wants to use. However avoided using proper names because I wouldn't be able to take bumping into someone with same name without giggling. So we have Mr Pink, Mr Black etc

I would completely out myself here if I said why said thing was called Kevin but last one was called Jennifer as it had side bits (bangs) like Rachel from Friends. I’ve had Mikey (black and shaped like a microphone), Sid (Sid vicious from Sex Pistols) and Quat, named after the kumquat fruit. I know, I know I’m completely insane.

Itsallthebsame · 22/08/2026 23:06

Yes, several and a husband. They become more useful as you get older. Knee replacement, dodgy hip etc.

Bonjovispjs · 22/08/2026 23:06

allgoodhere783 · 22/08/2026 22:48

Now i need to do a dodgey Internet search on "roses".... 😂

I have a rose that the ex boyfriend gave me, it's intense. Got rid iof him, but kept the rose 😁

AbsintheMakesTheHeartGrowFonder · 22/08/2026 23:11

PollyBell · 22/08/2026 22:46

But what has that got to do with sex toys unless he uses one?

I dont have any because I have him

Do you not understand that a sex toy is something people use as well as having sex with their partner, not instead of? I live with my partner but I still might feel like getting off when he’s not here.

HolidayPlanningAgain · 22/08/2026 23:35

We have lots, we use alone and together.
there is a toy for every occasion 🌹

Optimisticdramalarma · 23/08/2026 08:20

I've got about 10!

Started off 'tame' and we chose bigger ones as time went on

My favourite is called 'the big black bastard'

It's massive

We started off buying a tiny one in boots,moved to lovehoney and ended up buying bbb on ebay (we did peek in ann summers but couldn't find one we liked-i don't know if it was that branch but it was all riding crops and willy pasta)

I want an even bigger one but are struggling to find one that doesn't cost £££

Barney16 · 23/08/2026 08:24

Yes. In a house move I left stuff at my parents before moving to new house. Couple of weeks later my dad said oh Barney I tidied the stuff you left in the attic, I wasn't sure why you had dog toys but I put them in the blue carrier bag.

CinnamonBuns67 · 23/08/2026 08:24

Yanbu. I have them. Highly recommend Lovehoney for them they have a brilliant selection.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/08/2026 16:15

Itsallthebsame · 22/08/2026 23:06

Yes, several and a husband. They become more useful as you get older. Knee replacement, dodgy hip etc.

Yes, I found this.
Also - DH left me about a year ago, so the toys are even more useful.
🤣

EmpressaurusKitty · 23/08/2026 16:24

I suspect that if I got one my cat would run off with it.

Neverstopwondering · 23/08/2026 16:24

Got to say since husband has become disabled sex toys have been the perfect way to keep our sex life alive and stop him feeling less of a man or something like that. Sex toys are not just for singular use and many different types of people use them for different reasons.

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