To have yelled like absolute hell at my five year old

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I probably was but JFC

We have had a slow day admittedly but he was out all day yesterday, Wednesday and Tuesday, plus his sports club Monday.

Today I took them to a cafe with a small kids play area for breakfast, home for lunch and that’s when the problems started. Wouldn’t stop talking, absolutely incessant ‘look at me look at me look at me’ jumping on the sofa, jumping off the sofa, running round the room, asking the same question over and over, running around …

I ended up yelling like a possessed woman after numerous nice requests to calm down and sit down went ignored

I am sure I was UR

He has finally stfu

Hay we all snap from time to time. A simple “hay I’m sorry I should not have shouted at you, but sometimes even adults lose control of their emotions” will do. That’s what I say to my kids. My mum had 6 kids so you can imagine she sometimes lost her cool, but she’s a great mum overall and we all agree we had a good childhood. As long as you’re not yelling at him all the time it’s fine.

I shouted at my kids, my mum shouted at us, we all ended up absolutely fine but we knew where the boundaries were.

Your 5 year old should be apologising to you for not listening and complying with what I'm sure were numerous polite requests to cease and desist. Once he has done that you can sit down and discuss what happened rationally and explain boundaries and behaviours.

You are in charge and he needs to realise that.

What a sanctimonious boring comment. The woman is human. Why would you apologise to a 5 year old. Their brains are still in their arses

It is SOOO important that you apologise to a child when you’ve got it wrong. It teaches them that we’re all human and make mistakes, and thereby makes them
more comfortable making mistakes themselves.
Never underestimate the power of an apology.

No, it really isn't. The kid was in the wrong in the first place. It's for the child to apologise and then, if mum feels it is the right thing to do, she may apologise for shouting. Otherwise you end up with entitled brats who think they're never wrong.

The kid wasn’t in the wrong. They were just being 5!

I shouted at my kids on occasions. Long hot summer, nearing the end of the school holidays. Don’t beat yourself up. Apologise and then explain why his behaviour made you shout. Move on.

mine are adults now and perfectly well rounded individuals, doing incredibly well at uni and work and very close to me. My occasional shouting hasn’t ruined their lives

Good for you! Kids need to learn to respect other people, especially their parents. Hebpushed you, you pushed back. He learned something.

Depends what you mean

'get down for the sofa right now before you hurt yourself for goodness sake' is 1 thing, a prolonged sweary and threatening rant is different

Let him watch TV!

He learned to shout at people instead of manage his temper

Rubbish. Sorry, holier than thou attitude. Mum is human you know and she's on here admitting what she did - this does not sound like a mum who does this all the time.. And... it worked. He calmed down, job done.

Grew up in an era when everybody got shouted at . It's just raising your voice . Me and my sister could really wind each other up and didn't stop until one parent shouted at us . Then we knew we had gone too far . And deserved it .

" A five year old being a five year old "? Since when is it acceptable to be jumping on couches . It's not and it is not depriving a kid to say that it's not allowed .

Maybe because things were expensive and hard to come by but we were taught to respect our home and belongings. Had plenty of toys and house certainly wasn't a show house . I find kids have very few boundaries which is OK too if you don't mind . Problem is when you try to go to other places. Nobody wants someone else 's kid jumping on furniture.

These things happen… Nearly there! 1 week to go?