Neighbour inviting themselves in to AirBNB we're staying at?!

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We are staying at an AirBNB in France. A few days ago, a male neighbour (relevant as we are women/girls) just appeared, came through the garden gate without shouting hello or anything, and suddenly was standing next to me (I was relaxing in a lounger). His breath smelled of alcohol. He asked me if I was there alone, then asked if I had children with me. My French is rubbish so I tried to avoid answering, then was boring enough that he left. I only found out who he was after asking another neighbour, who assured me he's just nosy/interested in new people.

Then a few days later he appeared with his young daughter and tried to come in (pointed past me and started to move towards the door opening, where he could see my two teens). I said no, and waffled on about them being busy. (Quite proud of myself for saying no, I am such a people pleaser usually that I find it hard to say no when I know it's the right thing!)

So my question is – is it normal in any culture to just appear at someone's door and invite yourself in? When the people staying in the house don't live there? (Or even if they live there!) Wouldn't it be more friendly/normal to INVITE someone over if you wanted your kid to meet someone else's kids?

I suppose I'm just looking for soothing answers, lots of YANBU, telling me I wasn't outrageously rude and that my response was perfectly natural, and that this neighbour won't have it in for us now and do something awful!

Changed a few details in case this is outing.

Or just say fuck off which is recognised internationally

It’s good manners as well as self preservation.

OP needs to use 'vous', even when telling a stranger to fuck off.

The intimate mode is used to people you know well and small children, Its more of an insult because you are putting yourself in a dominant social position.

Fuck off in a selection of languages is always useful and universally understood.

We had Canadian neighbours who thought it was normal to stroll around our garden.

I do know enough to have understood he was asking me if I was here alone and if I was with my kids. I understand quite a bit but when flustered it’s hard to find the right words. What I would’ve said in English is a longish mix of why are you here/are you looking for someone? and I’m sorry, we are busy, I will see you out, or similar… no way I can figure all that out in the moment. So my weirdo brain went with Spanish actually 😂 (I speak English, German and Spanish, and GCSE-level French). Somehow he seemed to understand ‘Estamos ocupados’ or maybe just grasped my exaggerated hand gestures!

Well you get CF globally.
He was clearly looking for a chance to offload his child.
Unacceptable and needs to go in your feedback.

It's my pet hate. People who move abroad and make no fucking effort. I have an aunt who becomes very west country when she visits because she only speaks English when she comes back to Bristol each summer. A mate who is extremely fluent in Spanish and another who's Spanish has a Mexican accent!

Then there's the couple I met in France on a campsite who live in Normandy and were exploring France and I had to translate for them as the campsite owner didn't speak English. That was in the Loire.

Or my old boss who lived between England and Portugal and had to come home very ill because neither he or the wife can speak a word of Portuguese despite having a house there for 15 bloody years