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AIBU to consider legal action after admitted hospital negligence?

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BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 20/08/2026 13:55

I don't want to go into too much detail, to avoid "outing" myself, (name changed) but a close family member passed away recently, in hospital. We know there was serious negligence. The hospital have admitted this, and I have been advised in a document from the NHS to contact a lawyer. My problem is that other family members are adamant that they do not want to know what happened or pursue any action, so I can't speak to them about it. While "money" is always "useful", I don't WANT it, I just don't want anyone else to go through what my family have. I have been advised that sueing is the most effective way of forcing changes. So, should I sue (NBU), and if I do, what should I do with any financial payout?
For poll purposes
Sue ... YANBU
Don't sue ... YABU

OP posts:
WeddingDressguest · Yesterday 19:31

BunkBedsArePeopleShelves · Yesterday 19:16

Most medical negligence in the NHS is directly attributable to failing systems and lack of funding. Exhausted, over worked, underpaid, under resourced and/or under supported staff make errors than can harm and kill.

Taking even more money out of the system by suing is not going to help anything.

Tell me you're not a medical negligence, lawyer, without telling me you're not a medical negligence, lawyer.

BunkBedsArePeopleShelves · Yesterday 19:33

WeddingDressguest · Yesterday 19:31

Tell me you're not a medical negligence, lawyer, without telling me you're not a medical negligence, lawyer.

Obviously I'm.not. Noone here is. They're not the only people with in depth knowledge of the issue 🤨

anonhop · Yesterday 19:38

1 in 500 clinical negligence claims lead to trials just FYI

anonhop · Yesterday 19:39

@BunkBedsArePeopleShelves hear your point, but the NHS isn’t a charity and it isn’t a free service. We all pay for it. And like we’d claim if a private company caused us loss due to negligence, the NHS is the same.

Also, sadly, money talks. if senior leadership in NHS realise they are paying out claims due to XYZ, they will want to stop losing money that way & hopefully improve

WeddingDressguest · Yesterday 19:50

BunkBedsArePeopleShelves · Yesterday 19:33

Obviously I'm.not. Noone here is. They're not the only people with in depth knowledge of the issue 🤨

Accidental double posts so deleted.

WeddingDressguest · Yesterday 19:51

BunkBedsArePeopleShelves · Yesterday 19:33

Obviously I'm.not. Noone here is. They're not the only people with in depth knowledge of the issue 🤨

I am though. The most appalling care I have ever seen, and the worst examples of negligence, has been in the private sector. NHS is considerably safer than private care.

It's nothing to do with underfunding.

FillTheGoldenCupWithRoses · Yesterday 19:52

Do it. Something has to change. My godmother died due to NHS mismanagement of her case and my husband has now been left to wait for 8 months for a referral. When we finally paid to see a specialist they have said they’re worried it’s a brain tumour (pituitary). The system needs to be changed because it is harming people.

BunkBedsArePeopleShelves · Yesterday 19:52

anonhop · Yesterday 19:39

@BunkBedsArePeopleShelves hear your point, but the NHS isn’t a charity and it isn’t a free service. We all pay for it. And like we’d claim if a private company caused us loss due to negligence, the NHS is the same.

Also, sadly, money talks. if senior leadership in NHS realise they are paying out claims due to XYZ, they will want to stop losing money that way & hopefully improve

Very few people pay in more than they cost, so to the majority it very much is free.

It's just not how it works. Lack of funding causes a lot of problems, we all know this. Removing more money isn't everyone going to improve those problems. Senior leadership can't stop staff burnout and recruitment of under qualified staff by reducing budgets further.

morgan56 · Yesterday 20:10

If you go through with the compensation, they will offer a settlement prior, but in turn they won’t investigate fully. The payout amount is very minimal (we were offered 10k) the solicitor will be a % basis too (I think it was 25%) so it wasn’t worth it for the financial side.
My family member did pursue for a thorough investigation but honestly, it didn’t tell us anything we didn’t already know.

MakeItRain · Yesterday 20:23

Some years ago a close relative was left with a serious and long term issue due to admitted negligence. We didn't sue at the time but in hindsight I always wish we had. The hospital care was shocking and dangerous, and like you are saying, it's the thought of it happening again to someone else that is such a concern. Even now years later I often wonder about the ward my relative was on. I fully believe if I hadn't been around to fight her corner my relative would have died. It's not an easy decision but I wouldn't rule out suing. Perhaps think clearly about what would be gained from doing it to help you decide.

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