Was this a shitty comment from my friend?

[Linzdashluna]

DP and I often go out with another couple for meals and drinks, usually once a month we meet up. One of them suggested having a games night to which we agreed, I said we could do it at ours (thinking they meant like card games) but she said “well no, lets do it at ours so that we can actually move” I didn’t realise she meant games where we need to move around, but also… we could do that at ours anyway. They have a huge detached house that they had built from scratch, and we have a two bedroom terrace, but it isn’t small. You can move around in it! Her comment stung a little. I think if she’d have said something like “let’s do it at ours so that we have more room” then I wouldn’t feel any type of way about it, because that’s just truthful, there is more room at their house. But it’s the “so we can actually move” that has made me think that was a bit of a rude thing to say. Like she judges our house?

Yeah, it's a bit of a shitty comment! Was it out of character? If she's normally lovely I'd just put it down to a slip. She had her heart set on Twister and it just came out wrong!

But if she can be a snob about other people sometimes... then yeah, she's judging. 😞

I guess she didn’t like the way you immediately tried to hijack her idea, by suggesting to have it at your house.

I can remember buying my first home and a ‘good’ friend said to me it’s very nice shame you can’t swing a cat in it, though!
Have never forgotten it.
Lady Bountiful’s Moving Around Games what are they? Twister? Simple Simon Says? A mini assault course on the landscaped garden?

No this is an idea that’s been mentioned before. Last Christmas my DP mentioned it but we never got round to doing it. And then she brought it up again. So yes she mentioned it first this time, but it’s been in discussion by all of us, previously. Even so, if she’d felt like I hijacked her idea, she could’ve just said something like “I’d like to do it at ours” or like I said above “let’s do it at ours where there’s more room” there was no need to act so judgemental about the size of our house. Maybe I’m wrong, just feels like an unnecessary thing to say

It is a shitty comment and could have been worded tactfully that she feels claustrophobic at your house.

Yes it was rude. That said, I think if someone else is suggesting something it’s a bit rude to immediately jump in and say to do it at yours, if she’s trying to plan something it stands to reason she would host, unless she said otherwise, so maybe she was rude because she felt you were overstepping and trying to hijack something she was trying to plan by immediately trying to become host. If someone feels affronted and like someone is being rude they are more likely to be snippy/ rude in their retort back.

😂😂😂

It was shit.

but you must like her to see her so often?

I have a friend who has a heart of gold but omg the foot will just never get out of her mouth! It's now almost funny to see how many times she can inadvertently insult people.

Is this perhaps just her character flaw?