to expect an apology?

[misdee]

dh picked up a new car today. he had the paperwork keys etc.

he insisted he gave me my key. i said no he didnt. he says yes he did. he has memory problems from his strokes, so i tried not to get too riled up with him accusing me of having stuff i dont have, or his losing/forgetting stuff.

anyway i found the key on top of his wardrobe. why he put it there i dont know. he says he didnt put it there and i am just saying i found it there and i had it all along.

of course, because i am that petty.

all i wanted was a 'sorry, i must've put it there and forgot'.

. How old are you two?

pmsl

Grrr that would wind me up, too, Misdee.

clam 28 and 29.

but this stuff happens every day.

am just getting fed up of him thinking i'm doing things whichi'm not.

like putting keys on top of wardrobes.

i cant even reach the top of the wardrobe and had to stand on the bed to see up there.

he has a notebook which he is meant to write stuff in so he has a reminder.

and apparently i am not meant to get angry or stressed. but when i am getting told daily stuff is my fault when its not, then of course i get a bit cross.

and i never get an apology.

This would really wind me up. He sounds like my ds1 who just refuses to apologise for things when just a simple, "Oh, I'm sorry" is all that's needed. I don't ask for grovelling - it's just the little acknowledgment that something wasn't quite as right as it could have been. I do understand.

I know this is off the point entirely - but what made you look on top of a wardrobe in the first place? Has he put stuff there before?

But yes, you should have an apology.

Do you think he finds the memory problems stressful or embarrassing, misdee? You have my sympathies, though - that's really frustrating and irritating.

some people cannot say sorry, I don;t know why, they clam up completely and would rather the other person cry in outrage rather than say sorry!!!

I know

DH is one of them (at times).....

YANBU......at all.

but, go kiss, make up, and let him think he is right........you love him, he loves you, and you are pregnant....surely tis better aall round!!!

and then stamp on his toes

he has a shelf next to the wardrobe where he had put the paperwork, i was checkinmg to see if he had put the key on the shelf as well.

OK - understand now!