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What acts of loveliness have you had from other parents / grandparents / carers?

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DiscoElysia · 15/08/2026 18:06

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The other day I was showering with my 2 year old DD at a campsite. She was getting really stressed out - the water temperature and pressure weren't very gentle and shampoo got in her eyes and she suddenly wanted a wee but has been conditioned not to go in the shower so wanted to get out to a toilet right away... but we were both slippery and wet and naked and crammed into the little cubicle covered in shampoo. It was all a bit horrible for her and a bit farcical. I didn't think it through well in advance... not my proudest moment. I was stressed myself and she was screaming and I felt like the cruelest stupidest mum in the world in that moment (I guess we can all agree I was being unreasonable for getting into the situation!).

The mum in the shower next door with her older DD asked if we needed any help. When I assured her I didn't think there was anything she could do, she said how calm and reassuring she thought I was being and some other lovely things that I can't remember now because I was feeling so stressed myself at the time.

For some reason this little bit of loveliness made a huge difference to me in that moment. My brain switched back into problem solving mode. I was able to hose us both off fast and DD towelled and out to the loo, and a few minutes later we were both warm and dry and having a nice hug.

Never saw this random mum's face but she was so reassuring and supportive.

As a parent I've been in way more horrible and difficult situations than this one of course but I've never had a total stranger be so nice so unexpectedly.

What lovely things have other parents etc done for you in a bad moment?

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Morepositivemum · 15/08/2026 18:15

I always remember being at a communion and they were rushing everyone for the picture of the child after, as in picture now move on and it was chaotic with kids just being shouted over and a mother said ‘hold on her mum’s not here’ and took a lovely photo and sent it on. She also blocked so other parents could get in and get decent photos. I said it to her after and she just laughed and said she’d want anyone to do it for her.

DiscoElysia · 15/08/2026 18:25

Morepositivemum · 15/08/2026 18:15

I always remember being at a communion and they were rushing everyone for the picture of the child after, as in picture now move on and it was chaotic with kids just being shouted over and a mother said ‘hold on her mum’s not here’ and took a lovely photo and sent it on. She also blocked so other parents could get in and get decent photos. I said it to her after and she just laughed and said she’d want anyone to do it for her.

How awesome of her. I think it means so much to have someone notice that you are struggling and to advocate that you need to be included. It is like being seen and recognised somehow as a person.

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FusionChefGeoff · 15/08/2026 18:47

Before I had my own DC I was looking after a friends DS who was about 4. I was clueless and we’d been into town and he was kicking off big time about not getting a toy he’d seen in the shop. I was at a complete impasse and didn’t know what to do as we were on a busy high street so I had to get him home somehow.

A lovely lady just stopped near him, watched him until he realised he was being observed and then said ‘goodness me you’re making a lot of noise aren’t you?’

He was so surprised / shocked / scared of the ‘stranger’ he ran straight back to me and we carried on home as I shouted my thanks over my shoulder!!!

blankcanvas3 · 15/08/2026 19:01

I was in a supermarket and DD was about two at the time, and was really into having tantrums at the most inopportune moments. I was about 6 months pregnant and she was screaming her head off, banging her head against the floor and I was begging for her to stop and crying myself at that point because I was so exhausted/embarassed/just wanted to get out of there. I was about to call DH and beg him to leave work to come and get us because I couldn’t cope anymore, everybody was staring and I just wanted the ground to swallow me up. A mum with a pushchair came along, sat down next to DD and started talking to her. DD stopped crying after about 5 seconds and this mum just sat there, chatting to her for 10 minutes until she was calm again. Then she took me for a coffee in the supermarket cafe, helped me calm down and went on her way! I’ll never forget her. I’ve never seen her again, but I so wish I’d got her number or something

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