Hello
I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and have no idea how far along I am due to being on the pill back to back for 3 months. I’m guessing the pill failed when I stupidly took 2 lots of antibiotics for a tooth infection and completely forgot that it can make the pill less effective.
I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old, they currently share a bedroom. We are in a 2 bed new build so luckily pretty spacious but we do not have room for a 3rd.
We run our own business. DH is out 5-6 days a week 12 hour days, DD is in pre school 3 days a week 9-3 and 1 year old will be going after Easter next year 3 days a week also.
Financially right now, we can afford an abroad holiday once a year, we can afford food and heating and we always do a day out like the zoo or similar for kids birthdays without it being an issue financially BUT having a third would change being able to take them abroad. I realise what a privilege this is seeing as the poverty in this country is rising and I feel very fortunate to be able to pay for food and heating let alone a holiday.
We would have to move house, we’d have to buy a bigger car, we would have to say goodbye to holidays and I just feel so sad about this situation that we are in.
The two children we have are miracles, I had recurrent unexplained miscarriages in double figures heading towards 20 losses now we feel extremely blessed to have 2 healthy, beautiful children and the life and family I have.
What on earth do I do? I don’t know if I can go through with an abortion, I think I’d think about it a lot, I’d wonder if they’d be like their siblings, I’d feel a lot of guilt (this is me personally and I am completely pro choice by the way).
I also don’t know if realistically I can cope with the mental load of 3 kids, the age gap is hard enough as it is.
If you were ever in this situation, what did you do? Do you regret whatever choice you made?