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AIBU?

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in thinking my family should leave dd1s hair alone?

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micci25 · 27/06/2008 11:14

i know that i am not! i have asked my family time and time again not to cut dd1s fringe as they cant do it and she ends up looking like they badly tried to cut around a pudding bowl!!!

i on the other hand can actually cut it straight and i know how short/long i like it! also my friend is a hairdresser i look after her dd in return for free haircuts. so there really is no need for my family to touch dd1s hair!

anyway last week i braided her hair, her fringe was getting lone and i asked if she wanted it cutting she said no she didnt want a fringe. now she is only 4 so i should have say over her hair not herself but over something as trivial as a fringe i dont mind so i told her just to keep pushing it out of her way untill it was longer and then we could put it into her braids!

her braids were getting a little messy so i was going to re do the top ones again this weekend (i redid them last weekend too) and this makes it look tidier, i wanted to leave them in untill the summer holidays as it saves fighting with her over her hair every morning!

after sleeping at my mums she came home last nigh minus her braids and with her fringe halfway up her forehead and all the place! there is no point me trying to straighten it out she would end up with no fringe!

how do in tell them to leave her bloody hair alone! its not upto them to decide if they like her braids or not nor is upto them to decide if her fringe is too long! she is my child not thiers!!! i have tried asking them politley and clearly they dont think that i am important enough to listen to, so what is the next step? oh and am i BU being so annoyed about this?

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micci25 · 27/06/2008 11:15

*fringe was long not lone

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NickiSue · 27/06/2008 11:16

To be honest I'd be spitting nails! . You are def not being unreasonable.

mistypeaks · 27/06/2008 11:26

I would hold them down and give them all wonky fringes (and poss shave eyebrows too for good measure) See how they like it.

AMumInScotland · 27/06/2008 11:27

YANBU - WTF is it to do with them?

HonoriaGlossop · 27/06/2008 11:27

I wouldn't send her to sleep there or give them sole charge of her; then there's NO way they can do this stuff.

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micci25 · 27/06/2008 11:27

haha thats a good one misty!! i might try that one!! another thing is my sister could actually do a half decent job they could have asked her if it was annoying them that much!!!

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yorkshirepudding · 27/06/2008 11:29

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micci25 · 27/06/2008 11:30

no its far too short!!! all i can do is leave it to grow and then straighten it out a bit!!

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cheesesarnie · 27/06/2008 11:31

id be cross but done now.just tell them if they do it again they must allow you to shave their eyebrows.my sister once cut dd's fringe and she looked awful!but we hid it under a thick alice band until it grew out!dh cutting ds2 hair is another thing-ds looks like he has a bob or mullet after dh has been near him with the scissors.

yorkshirepudding · 27/06/2008 11:32

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littlelapin · 27/06/2008 11:32

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Mummyandi · 27/06/2008 11:48

I can't believe they would cut your DD's hair. THat is terrible. You have every right to be angry with them. I would have harsh words indeed

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micci25 · 27/06/2008 11:51

ill try with the bariding i can do them really tight but dd1 has a tendancy to move her head while you are trying to plait, therefore pulling any shorter bits out of your hands!!

i have rang them and apparently thier mobile hairdresser did it! i actually know this girl and find it very hard to believe that she has trouble cutting in a straight line!! me thinks they could be lying!!

they have promised not to do it again and i have told them that next time they do they will be paying for a v expensive salon in town to sort it out!!!

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WinkyWinkola · 27/06/2008 11:51

That is incredibly audacious of your mum & co (whoever it was) to cut her hair. I wouldn't be sending her over there again alone. You can't trust them. They clearly don't have any respect for your - or your DD's preferences.

frootloop · 27/06/2008 12:16

i would be furious too, thats not on.

but its good practice in hiding bad fringes, just wait till she gets hold of some scissors and gives herself a haircut. my sister gave herself a 1 inch long fringe when she was small.

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micci25 · 27/06/2008 12:21

ah she has already done that, cutting her own hair twice in fact!!! once it was cut by her cousin at a party with some toy scissors that werent meant to able to actually cut but could! and another time she found some nail scissors in the bathroom and 'trimmed' her hair! fortunatley she left her fringe alone!! my friend came around and straightened up the damage!!!

they have assured me it wont happen again, they didnt think that i would mind if they lied about who cut-- it since it was done by a hairdresser!! i have told them to check with me first and will be asking said hairdresser next time i see her as i am fairly sure that it was not her. though she was there that day!!

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