to not want one of DHs drunk mates sleeping in DD's bed

[elfsmummy]

Sadly I fear I am being unreasonable and a little PFB but am hoping someone can help me understand why this is bothering me?

DD1 has a brand new unslept in standard single bed in her room waiting for her to be ready to make the step from cot to bed.

In August DH is having 5 of his old uni mates to our house for a drunken piss up reunion. All very nice boys, good friends, love them all dearly.
I'm taking the DDs away for obvious reasons!

The very unreasonable part of me doesn't want one of them to sleep on DDs new bed. I know that this is completely irrational and can't explain why. DH thinks I'm mad. 2 of them are smokers (although they would only smoke outside) and he has agreed that they won't be in there.

The alternative is 1 in spare room, one on each sofa bed in lounge and one on a matress on the floor in playroom. So I guess not ideal for them.

Come on everyone tell me I'm being unreasonable.

I wouldn't want a smelly, boozy bloke in my dd's bed either. I don't think YABU

If they are having a royal piss-up, they won't care where they sleep, surely?

Nope, you are not being unreasonable. PFB or not, I wouldn't want some man's sweaty balls in my DD's bed!

just go with that alternative suggestion, and say 'I know it sounds daft, but what if one of them pukes, on her lovely new bed'

worst case scenario.

I let my mum sleep in DS's new as yet unused bed.
Different to boozy friend

I agree with NNB - I definitely wouldn't be happy about smelly-drunk man sleeping in my DSs bed so no I don't think YABU.

why oy just make him agree to wash the sheets,pillow cases,duvet etc.
what is your reasoning?
i think YABu

Even if you make him swear to put them on the floor, they will still use the bed.

These are you alternatives:

a) pee and puke all over the bed so they can't use it (not guaranteed)
b) hide the mattress (you will need a large house or a willing neighbour, who will think you're mad)
c) cover the mattress in vast amounts of clingfilm, a tarpaulin, plastic sheeting and 14 mattress covers so it can be used 'safely.' For your own amusement, put a hard pea under all the layers to see if one of your dh's beery mates is actually a princess.

I wouldn't want the bed used either, but your dh will feel like a prat saying to his pals, no the missus won't let us use the empty bed. Drink will take over and it will be used anyway.

I'd get a really good mattress protector and let them do it tbh. You can then give it a wash after and hoover the mattress down. And if your worried about worse put a waterproof covering on too.

I'd get a mattress protector and tell them to bring a sleeping bag and pillow.
I'd be more bothered about the quilt and pillow.
OR put DD1 in it before then.

If it were my friends then I'd put dp in dds bed and we would share mine and dp's bed but for some reason men don't seem as able to share beds.....

I suspect men are worried they might snuggle up in the night and never live to hear the end of it

I agree with VS - get them to bring their own bedding. Probably should anyway unless your DH wants to be doing loads of laundry when they leave!

YANBU. I wouldn't allow a boozy, sweaty man in my LO's brand new bed. I wouldn't leave it in there though as I wouldn't trust them not to get in it, or DH dosent cause a scene saying 'its' alright' putting you in an awkward position.

Could you move it to a neighbours for the night, or dismantle it? I know the latter is probably a bit extreme.

Thanks all,
Perhaps I'm not as mad as I think!

In actual fact the matress is still in its plastic so might just leave it in that

I'd feel pretty stupid telling them I'd rather they didn't use a perfectly good bed so I can't really expect DH to do it!

Maybe I'll hide the bed in the garage that weekend [whistles inocently]