I really don’t know what I’m looking for here other than just to get it all out.
18 months ago my husband and I had our baby girl, she was born at 26 weeks and was very poorly and we spent over four months in the NICU with her. While we were in the hospital he was my rock, he took extended parental leave and was there everyday. We had been together for seven years, married for four, when she was born.
Since we came home, it’s best to say things went to shit. I had a very traumatic delivery, a placental abruption and an emergency c section, and we were both traumatised. We muddled on with things for the sake of our daughter but just before her first birthday we had quite a frank conversation and both admitted we were not being the best partners to each other, and I said that frankly I needed to spend some time alone, working on my own mental health and wellbeing to be the best mum I could be for our daughter. He was very upset but agreed, and shortly after he moved back in with his mum.
I have had weekly therapy since she was born, I’m on anti anxiety medication now and overall doing a lot better. I’ve started going to exercise classes again (I didn’t want to for the first year or so as I was just so reluctant to leave her.), I look after myself a lot more, and I’m just doing so well. Last month he invited me in for a cup of tea as DD was still asleep when I arrived to pick her up. We chatted, things felt a lot more normal and since then it’s really felt like old times - we’ve texted a lot, spoken a lot and last week he even asked if I wanted to go on a date. I feel like a teenager in love again!
Neither of us have taken any steps to actually divorce, I think because deep down neither of us really wanted to do it. But are we crazy to do this?! Does it ever work out?! It feels almost like it’s too good to be true, to be given a second chance.
I have posted this in relationships as well, before anyone criticises me for posting twice, but I know AIBU usually gives better answers.