Personal finance - your pensions, savings, investments - is one aspect, and hugely important. I didn't mean to minimise the opportunities my generation (I'm 60) had with more DB and DC pension schemes, more childcare options (none of them cheap, however!) during working lives have had to build up a better-resourced retirement than my mother's generation. The state pension has improved, auto-enrolment has brought more people into pension saving, attendance allowance, pension credit, support on heating bills, free prescriptions and travel - there have been a lot of initiatives to improve the lot of pensioners and although I'd have to check the IFS numbers, I believe the rate of pensioner poverty now runs well below the rate of working age poverty.
But the other aspect of planning is a willingness to engage realistically and try to get ahead of the aging trajectory, rather than being ambushed by perfectly predictable evolutions of your physical needs. I'm probably pretty raw about this, having watched my parents (89 and 95, dad now in a nursing home) bring a toxic blend of passivity and stubbornness to the issue, and essentially engineering a circumstance where my brother and I became responsible for ensuring that he had somewhere safe, welcoming and decent to lay his head. His need for care, and their need for a serious readjustment in how they lived, and proper engagement with social services, had been signalled for years by his numerous falls. His increasingly dangerous driving! But because by some stroke of dumb luck he didn't break anything or sustain any worse injuries than bruises and cuts, (or kill anyone on the road) my parents refused to take heed. Until the day came that he could no longer get himself back up again, and was doubly incontinent, and struggled with daily living tasks so that my mum had to dress him, wash him, bring every bite of food to him and look on helplessly when he fell over, yet again, unable to help him up. I don't suppose any amount of policy reform, no matter how good, can change people's behaviour on such sensitive matters as aging, dependency, the viability of a long marriage in the face of physical frailty and money.
It is also true that the system is difficult to navigate, that at least some local authorities will try to push home care packages on people that have outlived such solutions being suitable for them, in order to ration access to residential care, and that my parents would have needed our help not to be pushed into a sub-standard home (and I mean literally, a home that had been deemed 'unsatisfactory' by the CQC, closed down, and reopened under new management less than 12 months later, but with no CQC inspection or rating. But at £1050 per week, was the cheapest option available, and the council social services team wanted to push my dad into it. We dug our heels in, insisted on finding a better home that would accept a third-party top up payment agreement, and he is very well-looked after in a home that costs around £1650 a week, plus extras for things like haircuts, chiropody and some, not all, outings.)
I really hope that everyone contributing to threads like this also contacts the Casey Commission, and their MP. And that when proposals for a bit more income tax across the board, or a bit extra on all estates, not just a sub-category of bigger estates and higher earners, are laid out in order to better resource the system so that those needing services get better ones, and those that need full-blown residential care can have their costs capped, so not every bloody penny gets wiped out, and an insurance market can come into being, the sodding opposition parties and their respective newspapers won't scream 'death taxes', 'fleecing the rich to pay for the feckless' and that a government actually gets a chance to do something sensible to meet the problems of the next 50 years!