AIBU not to let my three-year-old watch Frozen yet?

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A discussion came up with a bunch of mum friends and I was definitely in the minority. I thought I would post here to see if I am being unreasonable. It's fine if I am.

My DD is 3. She has become aware of the character of Elsa from Frozen at nursery and loves this character. I am not bothered by this and happily got her an 'Elsa' dress when asked. I also allow the songs.

I will not however let her watch the full film.

She gets a bit invested in programs and is easily upset. She also likes to properly understand 'why'. I think there is a LOT of explanation and unpacking needed in Frozen and that she can wait a year or so.

On a practical note she doesn't have the concentration to watch a full length film like that.

I would put this in the category of Mac Donald’s. Neither of our children has had it (they are 2 and 5). I’m sure nothing terrible will happen why they have it but I see no benefit in hastening when that day arrives.

Not our family, although if I could get our almost 3yo to sit in a cinema quietly for a couple of hours, I’d go and have a nap.

What a pile of shite. Did you give them a few tots of gin or a cheeky snort too?

That all comes with PARENTING!!! Why did you have a child if you can’t be bothered doing the basics?!

Then your child will grow up limited. Speak to kids like adults as far as possible, explain everything they want to know as truthfully and accurately as you can, and you will be amazed at how they outpace their peers in understanding and achievement. Also, it's Frozen not Hamlet...

This sounds like one of those decisions made by people who have few decisions to make in life.

Let her watch it.
she’s not going to be harmed by it. Most little girls by 4 have watched it’s lovely. And a lot of it will go over her head anyway. It’s mainly about the songs and the dresses and the colours.

Grow up

Lion King however......😉

My DD is now 11-years -old, she has also always wanted to understand ‘why’ about films, songs and books. She didn’t start enjoying films until she was about 5 as she couldn’t cope with whatever peril or drama the plot contained taking so long to resolve. Or with there being so much to ask questions about. She still dislikes stories with weak plots that are just a vehicle for lots of singing and dancing.

Indeed! That said I might have agreed if the OP said Lion King wasn’t suitable for a 3 year old with an enquiring mind. After all Scar clearly isn’t Nala’s father, which leaves Mufasa as the only choice and Simba and Nala as siblings! Frozen’s LGBTQ themes are much easier to explain than that ; )

I’ve worked professionally with children and families for thirty years. Sure screens are an issue but it’s not films or tv programmes on a tv in the home for short amounts of time that do harm. It’s you tube kids/shorts full of crap designed to be addictive and not encourage concentration for long periods of time. Where kids can zone out completely because its an ipad or tablet whatever so close in their hands. So screens constantly instead of or reducing play, physical activities, socialising, at a table instead of talking and so on. It’s the tablet/phones generation that are much more harmed by these mobile screens than we ever were watching a little tv or a film at home.

Most young children would play while watching a film on a tv anyway and dip in and out. I’d rather them watch frozen and other films than the crap i see so many babies and toddlers glued to on their parents phones instead of play and interaction and for long periods which is truly damaging their development.

No, not all screen time is damaging at all. I was agreeing with a poster who said that 3 year olds don't need to sit and watch a film. As they said, a few years older perhaps

Has she actually asked to watch it? I don’t really understand the question or why you’ve asked? You’ve made a decision that’s what you deem best for your child and other parents make decisions that work for their children. Some kids love Disney, my child is only just getting vaguely interested aged 8. Before this they found the aspects of peril too stressful. They’ve loved things like Ponyo and Totoro since they were around 3 or 4. Sounds like you’re firm in your stance and you’re rejecting other perspectives people have offered.

Don't let her watch it or do, it’s your decision and unless is causing issues then it’s fine

Put it on . If she's anything like my 3 years old used to be, she'll watch for 10 minutes then will wander off...

That’s the perfect chance to talk about emotions and our feelings of how we are sometimes happy and sometimes sad.

Sorry I have to laugh at the idea of a referral to children’s social work services because a child has watched a 15 or 18 movie. Tell me you’ve never come within sniffing distances of a child protection social worker without telling me… etc etc 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Right there are way to many posts for me to be able to answer individually. I was busy with DD yesterday.

To address a few things. I talkative my DD constantly. I am always answering questions on anything and everything and she is developing a good understanding. We address emotions in books and in real life including discussion of death which she has already had experience of.

I do not need to watch frozen. She will not be anxious or emotionally stunted as some of the more extreme reactions suggest for not watching it.

Frozen is PG not U it is recommended for 6+. I do not intend to stick rigidly to that but it gives context.

I still think that I don't want feature length films for a while. It is more screen time than I want to allow in a day.

Thank you to everyone for your comments. Some of them have made me think but overall I know what is best for my DD and to be honest some of you sound unhinged. Disney is not the be all and end all of life. Go out and explore the world for a few days.

Just let her watch it, as you say it's not as if she'll actually UNDERSTAND it, but she'll love the colours and the scenery and sing her little heart out to the songs if she's anything like my daughter at that age!

Going slightly offtrack my daughter (6) clicked on Pinocchio link on You Tube kids yesterday and was inconsolable within seconds as the carpenter was burying his wife and the cemetrery etc was depicted. I then realised it was only suitable for age 10+ so why can't we limit YouTube KIDS to age groups?😦

You know your child better than anyone else.
You're not comfortable with it, don't let her watch it.
I don't know why people think that all movies made for children, are actually actually suitable for all children.

And oh, 3yr olds have no business watching "movies"

It's a film that's aimed at little girls. A fairy tail that has a happy ending. Your DD will only take from it what she understands, anything else will go over her head. Just coz you don't want to have to explain it to her shouldn't be the reason you don't let her watch it. Why let her dress up as a character & listen to a song then stop her from watching & understanding the whole story. Let her watch it & answer any questions she has. She'll feel left out when her little friends start chatting about the film & she's no clue what they're on about.

I think some of my girls happiest memories ever weren't the expensive trips, it was simply singing and dancing along to frozen - especially playing the building a snowman! One of my girls is a very deep thinker and did ask a lot, but she knows enough to already be asking, so take some time yo explain. It has a happy ending and some good moral messages. She will be too young to properly get it, but she will get the jist of it.

I think it's PG due to 'rude humour' as opppsed to they think a child will be distressed after it ends if that helps

It is PG due to threat and menace.

I have never seen it as I have 2 sons in their 20’s, however, I do not know a 3 year old girl who does not love that film