For context, I never fit in at school and any time I had friends my mom would encourage them to leave town. Most of my youth was going around to my sister's dance recitals and not really making any space for me. Bullying and social ostracism were rampant and my sister even joined in on spreading lies and avoiding me so we were never really close.
When I did meet my wife in college after moving far away for it, my sibling tried to convince her to cheat on and leave me while bragging about her BF now Husband wanting to fight with me. My parents refuse to acknowledge any of this to this day and still guilt trip me about their wedding I was not even directly invited to. They also don't believe me when i say i was bullied and asked them on how to deal with it. Instead turning it into victim olympics rather than giving me actionable advice like they gave my sister and actually texting her. I've seen the novel length texts over their shoulders sometimes. It really was a golden child dynamic. I had to go behind their back with a neighbor who let me borrow their car to get my license. Just to be told "we're disappointed in you" and more concerned about insurance.
"you want more than people can give". No I want to be treated like a person. Normal people exchange numbers and message each other quickly. Rarely does it feel like pulling teeth or being told im "annoying" for messaging them once and not pushing it. Thinking they'll get around to it in a few hours, not immediately call me in a blind rage.
"so and so was asking about you." They have my number. Why can they not just text me directly like they do for everyone else? I know its not just me and I'm not alone, but I can't just get over this. My wife has helped a lot when processing all this on my journey while my parents called it "stewing or ruminating".
They even pulled some "have you tried volunteering" reddit platitudes instead of trying to know their other child. More concerned about the feelings of strangers than a child who wasn't their daughter.