AIBU to feel fed up with my partner moaning on days out?

[CountryGal21]

AIBU to be really annoyed about my partner’s behaviour on days out?

Just recently no matter where we go or what we do, my partner has something to moan about and it’s starting to ruin days out.

We have recently had days out at the zoo and at a dog festival (we took our dog also). Both days, she expressed excitement about going out, but then spent all day huffing, puffing, making faces and complaining about the heat. We also had a day out at a food festival, and again she spent the whole time huffing, puffing, making faces but complaining about her legs hurting. It is always something, and we always have to rush around and get back home because of how is she acting about this ailment and that ailment, etc.

I am starting to think that going out on my own or just with my daughter would be so much better and easier.

AIBU for feeling this way and should I call her out on it?

Are you doing things ( justifiably) for your DD? Does she want to spend time just with you or is she like it when you are on your own? If she resents being with your DD then she needs to go. If its just that she'd rather not do kids stuff and she would rather not go to the zoo ( for example) then go just with your DD.

Thank you 💐

Honestly, I am starting to think that she is just one of life’s complainers. I am noticing that she is quite emotionally immature and she needs other people to constantly manage her emotions for her, which as a parent, I do not have the capacity for.

Her excuse was that she felt her feelings were being ignored on those days out when she had those complaints, my response was that her complaints were acknowledged but they did not then need to be constantly acknowledged throughout the whole day (literally every couple of minutes).

I am going to suggest couples counselling but if she does not start to put some serious work into her problems, the relationship will be over…

No, a few of the days out have been just the two of us, and she still behaves in the same way…

She does get jealous of the dog sometimes though and actually sulks when I pay the dog more attention than her at that moment in time.

Some people really don't believe in long lasting marriages and would divorce over minor things. Surely this is something you can discuss and find a compromise or solutions to make it enjoyable for both of you.

Only together 3 years and she isn’t a parent to your dd. Honestly I’d just end it you don’t sound compatible at all. That’s the beauty of dating not marriage, if it’s all feeling too much like hard work just move on.

Do you live together? Consider how this relationship is making your child feel and the impact on her.

She sounds awful- dump her and find someone else who likes you

God help neatly Lifes too short to put up with that huffing and puffing. Your poor DD having to put up with her mum's moany girlfriend all the time!