to assume stealing should be taken seriously at school?

[Spidermama]

Stuff goes missing regularly and the school don't seem bothered. I'm talking about a junior school here. When dh went in today to mention that ds's Crazybones had been stole, for a second time, they seemed to suggest that it was ds's fault for bringing them in and tempting people.

I think it's being tolerated. They'll spend ages in assembly going on about how some people are flouting school uniform laws by wearing brown not black shoes and yet they don't bother to mention that people are actually stealing from each other.

Other parents have mentioned it too. It seems to be widespread. Is this normal?

not sure really, you shouldn't allow your ds to take toys into school purely becauae stealing/borrowing and not returning happens in schools... especially if this is the second time...

It is daft to send children to school with expensive/treasured toys as they do get broken/stolen/misplaced etc etc. But the school blaming the victim is not helpful either and you should speak to the head, citing governors if necessary.

Whether or not he should take these things in isn't the point imo.
Theft can't be seen to be tolerated, there is a chance to send out a strong moral message and it's just not happening.

glask these are playground toys. They are crazybones and the whole point is to take themn in and swap and play with them at school.

So is it just considered normal and acceptable that things will be STOLEN is junior school? I mean what kind of lesson is that teaching kids?

It's not acceptable but it does happen. Schools are just being pragmatic saying 'don't bring things in if you don't want to lose them'. But agree they should be saying 'stealing is wrong' too.

Edam they've never said 'don't bring them'. In fact they've told people not to bring in Nintendo DSs etc, but crazybones and tamagotchis are on the list of things they ARE allowed to bring in.

well the teacher will most likley mention it tomorrow or something to the class as a whole... if they dont know who took them then they cant single out that child.

I'm not saying its acceptable but its what happens, when i was at school things were always being stolen, and i dont think we ever found out who took anything!!

It's a terrible endigtment of state school culture that thieving seems to be the norm. I'm particularly outraged that such detailed attention is given to the issue of something as superficial as uniform and actual stealing is virtually ignored.

Indictment.

Crazybones are banned in our school now because of all the drama they've created.

Unfortunately, some kids are light fingered. The schools don't feel they have a responsibility for this kind of thing because they don't agree with kids bringing toys into school.

In a way, addressing this would be a good lesson for the kids, BUT I understand that the school probably has enough stuff to deal with.

YANBU but you kind of are BU, if you know what I mean....